Welcome to the concluding part of this teaching. Last week, we examined some simple elements couples neglect in adding colour to their marriage. This week, I will still focus on these Essential Elements for a Sweet Home.
Let us examine the element of Affection—I love you.
Words are powerful, so saying I love you over and again spices up the marriage. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person. Couples usually assume they do not need to use the word often because their partner should know they do, but this is not right! The Bible points out the importance of voicing what one believes in the heart (Romans 10:10). You need to say with your mouth what you believe in your heart. No one can read minds; until thoughts are voiced out, they remain private.
These are just three short words, yet by them, men and women come together to establish God’s counsel on the earth. However, these words are forgotten after the excitement of the wedding ceremony is over. Husband and wife must learn to speak kind words to each other. Words create the atmosphere of a sweet home relationship. There must be a continued renewal of your love towards your spouse (Colossians 3:19; Ephesians 5:25-28).
Someone rightly said, “Action speaks louder than words.” There is a place for words, and there is a place for action. Lending a helping hand and being available make a difference in relationships; they are a way to say you care.
There is also the element Touching and Giving of Gifts.
This is also a very important element. Sometimes, a touch speaks just as much as words. It communicates that you are in touch with your partner. It keeps the fire burning at all times when words are clumsy. When this vital factor is lacking, the couple stay aloof and withdrawn; the atmosphere in the house is usually tense. A touch communicates warmth, and this works!
When your spouse is physically down physically, remember that love is medicine. At such times, all you need to do is show a little more love, and he/she will be well. Some kind words, a little physical touch, kisses or a little gift from you will do the magic. The time your spouse would spend at the doctor’s office could be used by you to demonstrate your love to them, and you would not need to spend money on drugs anymore.
I will never forget an experience I had some years ago. I was really down physically, and my husband went out and came back with a little gift, beautifully wrapped and personally presented to me to further express his love to me. Could you believe that little act of love from him brought me health, and I never needed medication.
No one hates to be loved. These are little things that can make your marriage exciting. A thoughtful little gift at the right time can work wonders! Also, make it a point of duty to remember special days such as birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions to share the joy of the moment by exchanging gifts.
To enjoy a peaceful and exciting home, you must be born again. If you are not born again, please say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now, I know I am born again!
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave or forsake you. With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus’ name! Please write or call to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored with Bishop David Oyedepo).