It is another wonderful time in God’s presence! I give God all the glory for the privilege to bring His Word your way again. I started this teaching by explaining what it takes to attract the right person in marriage. Today, I will be sharing with you what I titled ‘Personality Development’.
As you journey through life, there is a need as a single man or woman to constantly appraise yourself and keep adding to yourself, so you do not become obsolete and rusty. You need to grow in grace to the extent that it will be clear, measurable and evident you are getting better. That is the only way forward. You must keep learning and improving on your actions, reactions and response, which all takes root from your personality. The Word of God says, But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord (2 Corinthians 3:18). Stagnation is not the will of God. As a believer in Christ, you need to keep on improving yourself. Do not wait until you are married before you can develop yourself.
What is Personality?
It is the sum of who you are, the qualities, which make you different from another person.
What is Development?
It is a gradual growth, positive change and becoming better.
Therefore, personality developmentmeans building up oneself, getting better and updating oneself continually.
They say water finds its own level. For instance, if you desire a pastor as a husband, you must build yourself up in the things of God. If you desire a financial pillar for the Church of Christ as a partner, you must build yourself up as a worthy complement. Your single days are an opportunity to exhibit the qualities you want in your future spouse. Remember, God’s Word says, Every good gift and every perfect gift… (James 1:17), God has only good and perfect gifts. So, make yourself a good thing for God to give His child desiring a good husband or good wife. Begin to search the Scripture and other related materials to know what you are expected to do to make happen what you desire for your family. Remember, good husbands and wives are not born; they are made. God wants you to make the best use of your single days so that you can live your life to the fullest, and be able to enjoy your future family. So, work at it!
You Need to Develop New Skills
Use your time productively in developing new skills. While single, there are opportunities to develop new skills without additional financial responsibilities that a family generates. It is a time to get the right purpose for living and the right career to follow. Recently, a brother I counselled years ago said to me, ‘Thank you for that advice that has done great things in my life. I gained admission to study architecture at the Lagos State Polytechnic. It was a dream come true. Like what you said, it has really affected my social life, and it has added more colour to my testimonies. Also, it is the right course of study as a career for me’.
Furthermore, it is important for single men and women to allow hospitality to be part and parcel of their lives. Being hospitable is very important in marriage. Singles who are hospitable will certainly welcome their life partners without knowing. As single ladies and men, how hospitable are you? Are you the type that would frown whenever you see somebody coming to your home, and to welcome the stranger becomes a problem? If this is your character, it is important you put it off before you go into marriage. Rebecca is a perfect example of the hospitality I am explaining. Concerning her, the Word says, And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master (Genesis 24:14).
To practice hospitality, you need to be:
Tolerant: For you to be hospitable, you must be tolerant. You must learn how to tolerate people.
Kind: Be kind to people no matter who they are. Learn to help people when the need arises.
Humble: Learn to humble yourself and accept others the way they are. Bring yourself to other people’s level if God has lifted you up.
Sacrificing: You do not need to be selfish. Always think about others. Put self off your life so that you can be of help to people.
Accommodate: Be willing to accept and accommodate people.
However, to develop yourself, you need to first and foremost develop yourself with God. The Word of God says, But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day (Proverbs 4:18). For your part to shine and keep on shining, you need God. If you are already born again, I see your part shining more and more today and forevermore. If you are not born again, why not say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today; I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins, cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me, and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your kingdom.
Congratulations, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave or forsake you. With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com or 08141320204. For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores, Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home, and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)