Peace and Blessing in Jesus name. Today, it is a privilege of bringing to you the God’s word that will impact your life and that of your family. If you must enjoy a successful Christ-like family, there are things which, of necessity, should not be found in your home. They are caused by man himself and are obstacles to having a victorious family life. They cause family stress, pain, arguments, quarrel, lack of peace, separation and sometimes, even divorce. A good knowledge of them will keep your family free from evil. However, in the cause of this series, I will dwell on just two of them:
- Wrong company: Being in the company of wrong people can in no small measure destroy a family with great potentials. The Word of God says, He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed (Proverbs 13:20).The company you keep either makes or mar you. The major cause of problems in some homes today is wrong company. Definitely, a wrong association will affect you negatively. It will make you do things that you would naturally never have done. That is why you must be careful of who you move and share your family issues with. A wise man once said, ‘Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are’.If your friend cheats, lies, steals, beats his wife, is covetous, a complainer or insatiable; then, you are in a wrong boat. Very soon, the nature of that friend will begin to rub off on you, and the end result will be destruction. Anyone who does not constantly lead you towards God’s plan for your family will eventually lead you towards destroying your home. 1 Corinthians 15:33states, Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. The basis for any association should be agreement (Amos 3:3).When the company you keep is not in agreement with what the Bible says, then you must end the relationship immediately. As they say, friendship is by choice and not by force! Separate yourself from wrong friends. Be selective in your association. Do not allow any wrong company put your family and home asunder.
- Impatience: Patience is a virtue, and absence of it equals impatience, which is the inability to deal calmly with a situation or wait for what you expect to happen. Also, it can mean a state of being in unusual haste. Many families have been ruined because of impatience in the individuals or family members involved. The Bible states, …he that believeth shall not make haste (Isaiah 28:16).This means impatience is an act of unbelief that does not qualify you for receiving anything from God. Abraham, the father of faith, exercised impatience at a point in his life (Genesis 16:1-6). God appeared to him several times, assuring him that he would have a son through his wife, Sarah. Having waited for what appeared to be too long a time, he readily gave in to Sarah’s suggestion to go into her maid and raise an heir through her. This singular action culminated in the creation of a strong opposition to the Christian faith today. Many have destroyed their families and the great things written of them through impatience. They have thought God is too slow to bring their desires to pass and so decided to help themselves. God’s ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts than ours. Even when He appears to be delayed, you must never lose hope because He makes all things beautiful in His time (2 Peter 3:9).Do not let the enemy cheat you out of your blessings. God is never slow or late; He is always on time with whatever He promises an individual. God’s time is the right time! The cure for impatience is simply patience backed by faith in the Word of God. James 1:4says, But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. Perfection will only come when your patience is in place. Your patience must be backed by a strong faith in God and His Word. So, if you are experiencing turbulence in your home, you must discover what God’s Word says is the solution and then step out in obedience. It may not look like the solution, but God is a marriage expert; He instituted the union and knows how best to make it work.
When you are filled with the Word concerning your home, it will not run short of miracles. To keep enjoying God’s blessings for your family, you must keep doing whatever He tells you to do (John 2:5). Not just doing it, but doing it fully and going to the extremes in your obedience. God has not changed, and He will not compromise His standard. When His Word is not given its priority place in your family, there is bound to be problems. Satan is rendered powerless when a couple stands firmly on the Word of God and operates by its principles. Therefore, hold on to God and His Word patiently. Many give up when they are just a minute to their breakthroughs – Do not give up! Trust God completely. God’s Word in Hebrews 10:36says, For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. Patience is a must! Instead of looking at the problem, challenge or situation, look into God’s Word; confess it to yourself and remind Him in prayers. For instance, if you are looking for a baby; instead of mourning over doctor’s reports and getting unhappy about every monthly menstrual cycle, you can hold on to God’s Word. It never fails! To overcome the darkness of barrenness, go for the light of God’s Word and keep declaring that Word until that barren situation changes. Light will always shine in darkness and darkness can never comprehend light (John 1:5).A woman gave this testimony, she said:
I have been married for seven years, and shortly after my wedding, my period ceased. I thought I was pregnant, and I kept expecting my baby, but it turned out to be a false alarm. From the results of a conducted ultrasound scan, the doctor said I had a uterus that was too small to accommodate a baby. I laughed it off, reasoning that if God had given those without wombs children, I, who even have one, have hope. Thereafter, while ministering at one of the conventions held, Pastor (Mrs) Faith Oyedepo mentioned and described my case, and I got up for prayers. Lo and behold, my period was restored. A month later, I became pregnant! My baby’s name is David! All glory to God!
However, true liberty from all those things that put families asunder is established when you accept Jesus Christ into your life. Success in the home begins by knowing God, the Creator of the universe. If you are not born again, you need to surrender your life to Christ. If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God, and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Therefore, read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).