I am sure you were blessed through my teaching on this column last week. In a bid to help intending couples lay a strong foundation for their future homes, this is the second teaching in a series titled: The Purpose of Marriage. These teachings will also be very helpful for married couples who wish to reinforce the foundation of their marriage and work towards a successful home. Last week, I started by discussing some of the purposes for which God created marriage, and this week, I will continue that teaching. When you know the purpose of a thing, you are not likely to misuse or abuse it. When you know the purpose of a thing, you have a set goal before you, which motivates you to work hard in order to benefit maximally from what you are involved in.
God’s favour is the maker of men. When you secure His favour, you progress and succeed effortlessly in life. Success in life and marriage is not a function of your smartness or connections but a function of God’s favour. The Bible says, The LORD maketh poor, and maketh rich: he bringeth low, and lifteth up. He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth up the beggar from the dunghill, to set them among princes, and to make them inherit the throne of glory: for the pillars of the earth are the LORD’s, and he hath set the world upon them (1 Samuel 2:7-8). Once your marriage is fashioned according to God’s prescriptions in His Word, you procure His favour, and when He favours you, it is irreversible. Even men are compelled to favour you because when a man’s ways please the Lord, He causes even his enemies to be at peace with him (Proverbs 16:7). The favour of God elevates you to greater heights that makes men envy you. When you step out hand in hand with your partner, people see the glory of God upon you, and they are moved to honour you; as such, all manner of doors are open to you. The singles among them will desire to be like you because the good hand of God upon your home will make marriage desirable to all who see you. God’s favour also secures for you lifting and promotion in status, which also affects your financial and material prosperity. It is an established fact that society honours the married. Certain jobs and key positions are reserved for the married because they are regarded and expected to be more responsible than singles. God created marriage to give man easy access to His favour so that he can live a ‘sweatless’ life. This shall be your portion, in Jesus name!
Marriage offers you unity on a three-dimensional basis – spirit, soul and body. Only couples enjoy this level of unity, and it enhances the success of their prayer lives. The Bible says, Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven(Matthew 18:19). A couple is more readily united on issues than any two friends are. So, whatever they desire in the home, when they pray in faith, God is compelled to grant their request. I strongly believe that the devil brings disagreements and bitterness between couples to hinder their prayer lives and ensure they remain on the same spot (1 Peter 3:7). Nowhere else does the power of agreement work better than in marriage. It is a special privilege God has given couples to enable them overcome obstacles, meet the demands of marriage and run the home.
God made man with certain physiological and emotional needs, and marriage provides the best fulfilment for those needs. Physiologically, man needs sex; it is part of his physical nature, and the satisfaction of that urge is permitted only within the parameters of marriage. God honours the physical union of a man and his wife by ensuring they find fulfilment in each other’s bodies. This is why He frowns at adultery and fornication. The Bible recommends in 1 Corinthians 7:2, Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. This is not to say that young men and women should rush into marriage just for the sole aim of satisfying their sexual urges. That would make them nothing but bedmates. The love and excitement in such a relationship never last, and that is not God’s plan or purpose for marriage. As a single man or lady, you are expected to control your urge until you locate a suitable partner with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life with, and are legally married. The truth is that if you cannot tame your sexual drive while single, you probably will not be able to exercise control even when you are married. Flaunting God’s purpose in this area of marriage can be very costly to your home and destiny. Do not do it! Marriage generally gives you a sense of accomplishment. It is your passage from one phase of life to the other, a step forward that marks your progress in life. Every young man or woman has a dream or vision of the kind of home he or she would like to have. No one envisions troubles or divorce for his or herself; everyone dreams of a joyful, peaceful and fruitful home, and God created marriage for the fulfilment of these dreams and aspirations. You will not be disappointed, in Jesus name! If you are married and your dreams for marriage seem not to find fulfilment, receive grace for a new beginning as you walk in line with God’s purposes for marriage henceforth!
Therefore, if you are not born again, your marriage cannot escape difficulties and troubles. However, if you will receive Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, you will experience a great change in your life and marriage. If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, please say this simple prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God, and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204. For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).