Happy New Month! I welcome you into another exciting moment in God’s presence, in Jesus name! In this third month, God will be releasing upon every reader an unusual grace to march forward in all endeavours. Today, we shall be looking at an interesting topic on ‘Nurturing your Relationship’.
Nurturing a relationship is the way two or more people regard and behave towards each other. As a woman, the way you relate with your husband will determine the success in the home. I will share with you factors that can help you nurture and grow your relationship as a married woman.
Factors to Help Nurture your Relationship:
Be the Woman of His dreams: Just as every woman has expectations about the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, you must know that every man also has some basic expectation of the woman they want to marry.
Be a Help: Obviously, God instituted marriage to get a suitable help for man, so He made the woman. Therefore, the woman is an ordained help for her husband. So, what are you to help your husband with? As a wife, God expects you to help your husband bear the load of responsibilities he carries. As it is written, And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18). Your ‘ministry’ is to ensure that the man does not fail in his duties, and the family system does not break down. In other words, you are there in the family to help lift the weight, not add to it. You are there a helper, not a destroyer, castigator or betrayer.
Be a Home Maker: Every home is like a garden, and just as God gave Adam an instruction to dress and keep it, every home must be dressed to be kept. No matter how colourful your garden, if it is left unkempt, it is open to the attack of all kinds of insects that will eat up its good fruits. The Bible says, And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it (Genesis 2:15).
Who keeps the Home?
Woman, how well kept is your home? A woman keeps her home spiritually by prayer and sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, but she also keeps it practically by cleaning up and beautifying it. ‘Cleanliness is next to godliness’, they say. Let the environment be conducive for the Holy Spirit. Titus 2:4-5 says it is the woman, That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
How do you keep your Home?
Feed Him Well
A popular adage that says, ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’. Woman, your family is what they eat. If they are healthy, it can be traced practically to their eating habits. It is not enough to feed with sumptuous food; you need to feed them right. Are the foods they eat nutritious? Or do you give them just anything? Wisdom is profitable to direct (Ecclesiastes 10:10). In this day and age of processed foods and snacks (fast food), please secure the health of your family by feeding them with good food. Eve fed her husband; unfortunately, she fed him with poison instead of life. Genesis 3:6 says, And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
Be Financially Accountable
Financial rest does not only come when you are a millionaire; it also comes by being a good money manager. You must have a financial plan; otherwise, you are creating room for financial pain. A wise man once said, ‘Pain is a sign of disorder’. You can prioritise your spending and maximise your income. Why must you put yourself into such pain getting into debt? Spend within your means and be content with your income. Job 8:7 says, Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase.
Complement Your Spouse
One other way to nurture your relationship is by an often-neglected key, and that is complement. Every human being loves to be praised either for what he has done or simply for who he is. The key is to locate the good qualities in your spouse and focus on them. Then express your appreciation for those good qualities by the words of your mouth. Learn to show appreciation for both small and great acts of kindness. You can also show appreciation by giving little gifts. Make room for praise in your home. Praise God always and complement your husband or wife, and your relationship will be heaven on earth!
However, for you to possess good qualities that will make your relationship last, you need a good relationship with Christ first. Therefore, if you are not born again, and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).