RENEWING YOUR MARRIAGE (2)
Peace and blessings, in Jesus name! Previously, I have been able to discuss signs indicating that
your marriage needs to be renewed. Today, I will be teaching on the subject ‘Renewing YourMarriage’.
However, I will be focusing on ‘Tips for Renewing Your Marriage’.
Many marriages have been challenged; so, there is an urgent need to renew the vows, and spark affection in the relationship. It is seemingly becoming stale and uninteresting for most persons; a marriage that was once a true union of souls connected in mutual love, respect, romance and spiritual oneness now acts like two strangers to each other. I have a goodnews for you today, it is possible to renew the affection, love, warmth, and encouragement, which were domiciled in the marriage from the beginning.
It has been proven that TIME has become one of the determining factors of decline in affection, warmth and care in most homes today. Either of the couple or both couples are busy pursuing a career, and many other activities at the expense of their relationship; thereby, paying little or no attention to their marriage relationship. Overtime, this has created lapses and loopholes for the devil to attack the family. Marriage is gold, and like most precious metals, one must invest time and resources to secure and fashion it into a jewel of great price. God is the initiator of marriage; He has created all things and made every provision to ensure that marriage is enjoyed to the fullest without restrictions if binding by His Word. However, to make the most of your marriage on earth, here are tips.
Tips for Renewing Your Marriage
Change Your Attitude: Your attitude towards your spouse should show love, commitment and affection. Are you suddenly acting cold to your spouse? Then this is the time to adjust, express your love, look out for his/her welfare, show genuine affection and demonstrate them. This will help fuel up your relationship and strengthen the bonds in your marriage.
Be Warm and Welcoming: Simple gestures can change your spouse’s mood and the atmosphere in your home. Do not make the home look like a war zone at all times; ensure your spouse gets comfort in the house and let them see reasons to rush back home. Let your presence portray peace and warmth, not the opposite; be willing to accept your wrongs and be quick to make amends.
Encourage Each Other: There are trying times and seasons in marriage. There could be times when your spouse gets overwhelmed with the issues going on in the marriage or work/business. This is not the time to yell; as a godly spouse, this is the time to show genuine concern about the happenings. Encourage and pray for your spouse. Look for opportunities to give your spouse a soothing word of encouragement. Give a helping hand if need be, this will go a long way.
Reinvent Your Sexual Life: This is one of the most important aspects of every marriage, and no couple should be tired of putting up new things to spice it up. If there is the feeling of lack of intimacy, ensure you re-strategise and reinvent new ways to heat up your intimacy. Make no room for arguments, grudge and bitterness; these can also hinder a healthy sex
Renew and Re-Establish Your Friendship: At the base of the marriage was friendship, this was one of the ways you got bonded as a couple. If you notice the friendship is gradually fading away, there is a conscious need to re-establish friendship where you both will enjoy each other’s company, get more patient with each other and renew the bond that will get the relationship going. Look for creative dates, go out for dinner as you used to when you were courting, and find things that can spark up the friendship. It does not need to be expensive or time-consuming, little things could do the magic.
Appreciate Your Spouse: Let your spouse know you value and appreciate them; write things you are grateful for about your spouse and intentionally thank them for being part of your life. Remind them of the kindness they have shown you in the past and how much you anticipate reciprocating them accordingly. No one turns deaf ears to praises.
Nurture Spiritual Growth: Spirituality is the foundation of every marriage. Ensure you pray daily for your spouse and your marriage. Seek God’s help to enable you rekindle the love you have for Him and your spouse. If you are spiritually sound and in total submission to God, you will not find it difficult loving your spouse. Attend church services together, develop a regular time to practice spiritual disciplines; such as devotions, Bible study,
prayer, etc. All these help recreate bonds in relationships.
Review and Renew Your Marriage Vows: Revisit the vows you both made at the altar and check if you both have been committed to fulfilling those vows or they were mere sayings to entertain your guest. Remember your wedding vows were oaths you both took; an oath is bounded by principles, which should be adhered to. Ensure you refresh your mind and pleasant memories of how you both began this can be a spark for the new marriage you are about to enjoy in Jesus name.
Therefore, if you want your marriage renewed, Jesus is the answer for a renewed marriage. No marriage thrives on the energy of the flesh, and there is usually a supernatural force that enables you scale through unpleasant times in your marriage and turns it to the marriage you dream of having. So, you have to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you have made this decision, say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died and
rose again for my sake. Forgive me my sins, take over my life, make me Your child and let Your peace reign over my life. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again! Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through
email@example.com OR call 07026385437, 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Salvation the way of Escape, Success in Marriage (Co-Authored by Bishop David Oyedepo), Making Marriage Work and Marriage Covenant.