I believe from the last teaching on God’s Ultimate Desire for your Marriage, you have begun to practically walk in all that was discussed and your family is experiencing daily, God’s original purpose for marriage. It is my prayer that from your engagement of all that you read in this column this year, your family will experience the best of God.
We are in the last days; and we understand from scriptures that God always reserves the best for the last (John 2:10). As such, it is expected that your marriage and family experience the best in these last days if you subscribe to God’s prescriptions for family life.
To this effect, this month, I will be discussing on a very vital key to experiencing blissful moments in your home. I shall be teaching on how: Two Alone Make A Home.
A home is instituted when a man and a woman, known as husband and wife, who share common goals and values, have a long-term commitment to one another, and come together in marriage. It is the agreement and commitment of two people (a man and a woman) before they are joined as husband and wife, to become one flesh, and together rule in earthly dominion.
In God’s own design, two people alone make a home in marriage, The Word of God says: For this cause shall a man leave his father… and cleave to his wife (Mark 10:7). A home is created at the coming together of only two people, not more. My husband says that when they are more than two, it becomes a house! I believe this is true! This implies that the practice of polygamy, that is marrying more than one wife, is a slight on God’s design for marriage.
A man and a woman are designed to become one flesh. This is a heavenly arithmetic and we all know that the force of unity is powerful and is supposed to affect all realms of life – spirit, soul and body. Spiritually, they should belong to the same spiritual kingdom. In the realm of the soul, they should be able to think and speak in one accord. Physically, they should be able to freely share their bodies together for procreation and pleasure.
The importance of the concept of oneness in marriage cannot be over-emphasized. The Bible declares that it is good and pleasant for brethren to dwell together in unity (Psalm 133:1). If it is good for brethren to dwell together in unity, it is certainly better for a couple to be united. When unity exists between a couple, tremendous power is made available and the impossible becomes possible to them. The Bible says: And the Lord said, behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do (Genesis 11:6).
This is the force of unity at work. If a couple is truly united in spirit, soul and body, nothing will be impossible unto them. It is the original concept of God in marriage that couples enjoy the benefits of oneness. The concept of oneness teaches the believer so many lessons. Firstly, if you are truly one with your spouse, you will treat him/her as yourself. The Bible says: For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it… (Ephesians 5:29).
If you, for any reason, hate your spouse, it is a sign that you are not united with him/her. Whatever you cannot do to yourself, you will not do to your spouse. An understanding of this will chase away selfishness from the homes. It will put an end to fighting and misunderstanding. Do unto your spouse the way you want your spouse to do unto you.
Secondly, the concept of oneness will make it easy for a husband and a wife to share their bodies freely with one another. It will also make it possible to derive a greater degree of pleasure from their physical union, which is their procreative power. If this concept is understood and followed, it will reduce the problem experienced in the home today to the barest minimum.
Thirdly, the concept of oneness teaches that divorce is not part of God’s programme for the home. The husband in the home is likened to the head, while the wife is likened to the body. Even in the physical, you don’t separate the head from the body, or else it will result in death. The Word of God says: …And they twain shall be one flesh… (Matthew 19:5-6). God’s concept is that you do not put asunder what God has joined together.
Jesus was teaching on the subject of divorce in Matthew 19:3-12. He particularly noted that no one should put asunder what God has joined together, not even the couples themselves. God hates putting away, divorce and every violent act against one’s spouse in marriage. Since marriage is a life commitment, divorce should not be considered as an option to settle problems in marriage. God’s Word is more than enough to handle any situation in your home and in any area of your life.
However, the first access to the revelation of the Word that impacts in all areas of life, comes with being born again; accepting God’s presence in your life and home. The Lord’s presence in your home is the first step to peace. Allow Jesus to come into your heart now and your story will change. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life and family. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).