YOUR COMPORTMENT IS IMPORTANT (1)
I welcome you to yet another wonderful time in the study of God’s word. A wise man once said, ‘Attractive packaging sells products’. In today’s teaching, I will be addressing the singles ready for marriage but yet expectant of that glorious invitation. Often times, you hear people say they have done all they know to do and yet have not realized their desire. You may do many things but until you do the right thing, you cannot have an access to what it is designed to produce.
Self is defined as a person’s inner being, a person’s nature and personality, the qualities that make up an individual, the entire person of an individual, an individual’s typical character or behaviour, etc. Packaging is defined as materials used to wrap or protect goods, a covering, wrapper or container. Self-packaging is, therefore, the outer covering over a person’s true nature, being, personality, character, behaviour, individuality and identity.
What Is Comportment?
The word comportment means to bear, conduct, bring together, carry, and to behave in a manner conformable to what is proper and expected. One of the most important questions you must ask yourself is ‘How am I conducting myself?’ If your life is to attract the kind of attention desired, then you must begin to conduct yourself in a manner that reflects that expectation. In other words, how you behave, talk, dress and walk will determine how people will respond to you. Let us examine these vital areas in detail.
The starting point is in your thoughts. Whether we like it or not, we are products of our thoughts. The Bible says: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23: 7). Your thoughts form the basis of your speech. It affects the way you act, determines your motives for dressing the way you do and sets a pace for how you walk (your bearing). It is, therefore, vital to the issue of comportment and self-packaging.
A wise man once said, ‘The way you dress is the way you are addressed’. This is very correct. It is generally believed that the way you dress is an expression of your nature. When Queen Esther needed to obtain favour from her husband the King, she knew that her dressing was very important. She could have chosen to dress anyhow, perhaps even in sackcloth and ashes, like the Jews generally did, to express sorrow in their heart. After all, the man was her husband and she needed him to understand her state of heart. But, no! She knew better. Her sorrow must first be covered in an apparel of beauty, to make a more lasting impression.
The Bible says: Now it came to pass … that Esther put on her royal apparel, and stood in the inner court of the king’s house … and the king sat upon his royal throne. And it was so, when the king saw Esther the queen standing in the court, that she obtained favour in his sight: Then said the king unto her, What wilt thou, queen Esther? and what is thy request? it shall be even given thee to the half of the kingdom (Esther 5:1-3). One look at her, all gloriously dressed, and the door of favour opened up to her.
If you have the nature of God, then your dressing should reflect the God you serve – who by the way is a lover of beauty and at the same time a holy God. The Word of God says: Let all things (including our dressing) be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14: 40). But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way (NIV). Let your moderation be known unto all men, the Lord is near (Philippians 4: 5). Three words stand out clearly in all these passages: orderly, decently and moderation. In other words, show restraint in your dressing. What you must understand is that your dressing is the first impression you make on the minds of the people you meet. Another wise man said, ‘You don’t have a second chance to make a first impression!’ When what you wear is decent, you earn the respect of those around you.
In the Old Testament, we see how Rebekah took a veil and covered herself (Genesis 24: 65). Covering herself was a symbol of her respect for Isaac and her own self-respect. As a single lady, no serious Christian young man is likely to see a girl who dresses indecently and perceive her to be a woman of honour. You are a woman of honour; look it! The same holds true for men. No young lady will be attracted to a man who goes about roughly dressed in dirty jeans or wrinkled clothes. It simply portrays dirtiness or laziness at keeping your clothes clean.
When Joseph was called by Pharaoh, the most powerful man in their days, the first thing he did was to change his clothes. The Bible says: So Pharaoh sent for Joseph, and he was quickly brought from the dungeon. When he had shaved and changed his clothes, he came before Pharaoh (Genesis 41: 14). His dressing contributed to the honour and favour he came in contact with. It is definitely your turn for honour and favour!
Even Jesus Christ, who was God in person, paid attention to the kind of clothes He had on. The Bible records: When the soldiers crucified Jesus, they took his clothes, dividing them into four shares, one for each of them, with the undergarment remaining. This garment was seamless, woven in one piece from top to bottom. Let’s not tear it, they said to one another. Let’s decide by lot who will get it (John 19:23-24). His clothes were too precious to be divided in pieces. So, the soldiers decided to cast lot to determine who gets to have it for good.
Good dressing is not dependent on the quality of the fabric or the brand name it bears. It is purely dependent on how you the wearer comport yourself as you wear it, and how decent you look in the clothes worn. There are a lot of people who put on some very expensive clothes and yet devalue the clothes, because the clothes do not suit them. So, it is not in the quality but in your comportment and outlook as you dress up.
The Bible speaking in Romans 4:4-5 says: Now to him that worketh is the reward not reckoned of grace, but of debt. But to him that worketh not, but believeth on him that justifieth the ungodly, his faith is counted for righteousness. Doing the right thing is not a function of strength but of grace. It takes the grace of God to know what is right from what is wrong. Until you receive this grace, try as hard as you may, you will never attract the favour of men. Therefore, you must sincerely desire of God an out pouring of grace for performance. To enjoy the grace of God, you must be a born again. If you desire to do so right now, say this simple prayer of faith ‘Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today’.
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ name. Call or write and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Singles With A Difference, Make Your Life Count and Welcome to God’s Family.
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