Last time, I taught on how prayer can get your unbelieving spouse saved. Do you remember that old proverb which says, “Action speaks louder than words?” There is a life that speaks! Its voice is louder than the sound from the vocal cavity of man. It gets an unbelieving husband or wife saved. It ministers and brings glory to God. It is the kind of life that every believer must live in the home, at work, at the market place and everywhere, so that sinners can be magnetized into the Kingdom of God.
Your life is the greatest witness, especially to your spouse. Your unbelieving spouse will always consciously or unconsciously watch to see what you preach in your actions. Your actions should speak louder than your words. Another effective way to win your spouse’s heart for Jesus is by living A LIFE THAT SPEAKS.
Your Christian life must be one of good example that portrays the fruits of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 says: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. If your Christian life have these characteristics, it will influence your spouse and even other relations to the extent that without opening your mouth to witness to them (even though it is scriptural to witness to them), they will be attracted to the Kingdom of God.
Your spouse will be easily won to Christ, when you do it using the fruits of the Spirit mentioned above. These characteristics must replace every other negative attitude. They must be clearly seen by him/her and everyone. Jesus, our Role Model for winning souls, expects us to live a life worthy of emulation. God’s Word in Matthew 5:16 says: Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your father which is in heaven. I have had opportunities to counsel people who have unsaved loved ones and discovered that quite a number of them do not live lives that speak right in their homes. I once met a woman who had problems with the salvation of her husband, and I discovered from my discussion with her that the way she spoke in the home constituted the major obstacle to the man’s salvation. Brethren, be chaste in your conversation! Women are usually guilty of this. As long as you keep nagging your unsaved husband, after a while, he will not even like you to be around him. This may even lead to divorce in a home. Do not let your tongue be a trap to your loved ones; let it be an asset!
Living a Christian life is not as convenient but compulsory. You have a job to do. So, a woman whose husband is an unbeliever and probably a drunkard, will need to fall on her knees and take the situation to God in prayers. She will also need to follow up her prayers with a practice of the fruits of the Spirit. Nagging, insulting, abusing or cursing the man will only push him deeper into his sins. Remember, whatever happens to him, will also affect you too in the long run.
Instead, let your life be a living proof of the characteristics of the fruits of the Spirit. Let love, gentleness and meekness be your stronghold. Let it move you to prayers, watching out for your unbelieving spouse even in a terrible drunken state. I tell you, very shortly, he or she will realise the depth of your love and gentle character that he or she won’t need too much lecture on turning over a new leaf. Let your actions be the one that speaks patience, temperance, faith and very shortly God will touch your spouse’s heart by His power as written in John 6:44 which says: No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Here is a testimony that will inspire you: “When we started preparing for the Women Convention, I prayed to God and told Him I wanted my family renewed. I did not like the name I was being called (I was being called the wife of an unbeliever). So, I told God I didn’t want to be called that again. And God did a great thing, even before the convention began! On the day of the last breakthrough night, my husband said, ‘We have to go to church.’ We came to church together and he gave his life to Christ that day. Now, he has stopped smoking and everything has changed in his life. He is now a new born person! God has changed my husband!
During the special ministration sessions at the convention, I stood in the gap for my husband using my neck chain and on getting home, I placed the chain on my husband’s neck and placed my anointed forehead on his and he started to prophesy, speaking in tongues! My husband had always criticised speaking in tongues, and here he was doing just that.” – Efemuaye, L.
I see God do the same for you in Jesus’ name. With Him, ALL things are possible. Embrace Him today and turn the life of your spouse around for good. To embrace God through His Son Jesus Christ and become born again, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored). See you next month!