This year has indeed been very informative, and God has wondrously taught us His Word. I am ever privileged to be the vessel God uses to bring His Word to you, and I know that you have been richly blessed. To crown up this blessed year, we shall be examining the topic: Will you marry me?
This question is what many single ladies yearn to hear; but many single men however, find it hard to ask this question for so many reasons. Many ladies, who have had the opportunity of being asked the question, either jump at it or entirely lose the opportunity, because they do not know what to watch out for, what to say or how to say it.
Many men and women remain single, believing God for their own life partners in marriage, without making any effort to do that which will bring this blessing their way. You may be wondering how possible it is to find a marriage partner, amongst so many choices. You may even begin to think that it is impossible to find the right person in a world that is full of different characters, pretenses, uncertainties and changes.
In this edition, I will be revealing to you, some Bible truths on how to find your own marriage partner. God has made some spiritual tools available in His Word on how to find a partner, but you have to search. God’s Word in Proverbs 18:20 says: Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
The act of finding simply means that there are conscious steps to take, when considering marriage. Every man must find his wife, and finding is not just a spiritual process, but you must open your physical eyes in order to see. It is your responsibility to assess what you see, whether it is what you really want or not.
The first step to getting a marriage partner is to sincerely DESIRE one. It means having a strong wish to have something. It is not just wanting to be married, but having a strong determination for it (Proverbs 10:24). So, if you sincerely desire in your heart to have a marriage partner, then let it find expression on the outside.
Admit your desire publicly, without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. Don’t pretend! Admit your desire before God and man and declare your stand boldly. Finding a marriage partner is not carnal, provided it is done using God’s laid down principles. It is your desire that will consciously make you find out what God’s provisions for marriage are. You must find out what instructions, commandments, corrections, promises and counsel have been made available, for you to be properly directed in making the right choice. Your primary instruction manual to follow, in order to be sure of success is the Bible.
The scripture is the only sure foundation. Since God is the Author of the institution of marriage, He knows it better than any man. He will not hesitate to direct you when you, genuinely ask Him to. Romans 8:32 confirms this: He that spared not his own son, but delivered him up for us all; how shall he not with him also give us all things?
Unlike your earthly parents, relations and friends who may at one point or the other get you matched with a suitor, God will not interfere in all you do in finding a marriage partner, unless you ask Him to in PRAYER. His Word will show you what to do and how to go about it, but God will not get involved in it unless you invite Him to.
Also, you should make yourself fit for marriage physically, spiritually, materially and mentally. Even though it is true that you would not just want any kind of person for a marriage partner since you would have some uncompromising qualities that you are looking for in a person, you also must make conscious effort to become as good as the type of person you desire. Lester Sumrall said, “The key to success in marriage is not so much as marrying the right person, but becoming the right person.”
Many Christians bother so much about marrying the right person. Remember, birds of a feather flock together. If you are an unserious Christian, you will automatically attract an unserious Christian because two cannot walk together except they agree (Amos 3:3). As you make yourself right, God simply adds to you the blessing of a right life partner! Let your heart pant after God and His Kingdom. Purpose in your heart to be more prayerful, a word addict, more service-minded and expect heaven to send your way a choice partner.
Friend, for God to be your matchmaker, you have to be born again. This entails confessing your sins, forsaking them and accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour.
If you are not born again, you can do so right now, as you say this prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Singles With A Difference, Marriage Covenant, Make Your Life Count and Success in Marriage (Co-authored).