The question, “WILL YOU MARRY ME?” is what many single ladies yearn to hear. Many young unmarried men however, find it hard to ask this question for so many reasons. Many ladies who have had the benefit of being asked the question either jump at the opportunity or lose the opportunity entirely, simply because they do not know what to watch out for, what to say or how to say it.
Many men and women remain single, believing God for their own life partners in marriage without making any effort to do that which will bring this blessing their way. You may be wondering how possible it is to find a marriage partner amongst so many choices. You may even begin to think that it is impossible to find the right person in a world that is full of different characters, pretences, uncertainty and changes.
Many eligible singles see the act of finding a marriage partner as a hard task of ‘looking for a needle in a haystack’. Well, I have got good news for all singles, unmarried and even those that are married and are looking for ways to give biblical ways of finding a marriage partner to their children and friends. This month, I will be revealing to you, some Bible truths on how to find your own marriage partner.
God has made some spiritual tools available in His Word for this purpose and the major prerequisite required, is in seeking, in order to find. God’s Word in Matthew 7:7-8 says: Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Proverbs 18:20 says: Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. The act of finding simply means that there are conscious steps to take, when you are considering marriage. Every man must find his wife, and finding is not just a spiritual process. You must open your physical eyes wide in order to find. It is your responsibility to assess what you are seeing, whether it is what you really want or not and the first step to getting a marriage partner is to sincerely DESIRE one. It means having a strong wish to have something. It is not just wanting it but having in addition, a strong determination to have it. There must be a strong desire for a partner because it is what you desire that will be fulfilled (Proverbs 10:24). So, if you sincerely desire in your heart to have a marriage partner, then let it find expression on the outside.
Admit your desire privately and publicly without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. Don’t pretend! Admit your desire before God and man and declare your stand boldly. Finding a marriage partner is not a carnal thing when it is done using God’s laid down principles. It is this same desire that will consciously push you to find out what God’s provisions for marriage as written in the scriptures are. You must find out what instructions, commandments, corrections, promises and counsel have been made available, for you to be properly directed in making the right choice. Your primary instruction manual to follow in order to be sure of success is the Bible.
The scripture is the only sure foundation and since God is the author of the institution of marriage, He knows it better than any man. He will not hesitate to show them to you when you genuinely ask Him to. Romans 8:32 confirms this: He that spared not his own son, but delivered him up for us all; how shall he not with him also give us all things? The answer is, ‘He will’.
Unlike your earthly parents, relations and friends who may at one time or the other try to match make marriage partners for you, God will not interfere in all you do in finding a marriage partners, unless you ask Him to in PRAYER. His Word will show you what to do and how to go about doing it but God Himself, will not get involved in it unless you invite Him to. This is so because of the event that happened in Genesis 2:20-25. When God “arranged a wife for Mr. Adam. Mr. Adam did not experience the work of finding, choosing, deciding carefully or proposing to Miss Eve. He just slept, woke up and found a woman beside him. With full excitement, he broke into prophecy and said, “this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”.
I cannot remember him saying a ‘thank you’ to God. God had done all MR. Adam needed to do but his reply to God’s question later on when things went wrong in the garden of Eden, was “… The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat” (Genesis 3:12). This, in other words meant, ‘God, you are the one that gave me this woman and she disobeyed you. I did not ask you for a woman… If you had not given me this woman, everything would still be okay… so, it is not my fault, it is yours”. Since that time till today, God’s new rule for marriage in Proverbs 18:22 is: Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. So, is” WHOSO findeth.” You must do the act of finding a marriage partner by yourself and unless you invite me into the matter, I will not interfere in it!
However, God’s help in making the right decision cannot be overruled. God only listens to the prayers of His children. You, too, can become His child today by being born again. That is only when you begin to enjoy divine direction for the right decisions. If you are ready please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).