Towards a successful home is the beginning of another teaching series. Somebody said that when the purpose for which a thing is created is not known, it is bound to be abused (misused). That is a very wise saying and I believe in it. Just like you have drug abuse in the society, we also have a lot of “Marriage abuse” because so many people, who are involved in it or intending to get into it, do not know the purpose for which God, the Manufacturer of marriage, made it. Therefore, they misuse it.
Whether you are married or intending to get married soon, as you follow this teaching with concentration, God will open your eyes to the truth that will exempt you from the heartaches and sorrows that others experience in marriage today. God is a God of purpose. There is nothing He created that is purposeless or useless and that goes for marriage as well. God had several purposes for instituting marriage, and I will discuss each one as outlined in the Holy Scriptures.
Genesis 2:18 says: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Before Eve was brought into Adam’s life, certain responsibilities were committed to him. It was his duty to dress and keep the garden (Genesis 2:15). But God saw that he needed help to fulfil those responsibilities.
In Genesis 1:28, God had said to the man: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. That statement is a blessing, but it also connotes responsibility. “Multiply”, “Replenish”, “Subdue”. Certainly, Adam needed help. So, God sent him help in the form of a woman; one that was suitable, adaptable and complementary to him. She was not just any kind of help, she was “… A help meet for him”. Marriage was created to help man, not to hurt him. It was created for his comfort, not discomfort. Both the husband and wife are meant to support one another in every area of life. When a man is struggling to carry a heavy load alone, he experiences a lot of strain and struggles, but once he has someone to share it with, he is relaxed. Marriage is created for improved living. So, be determined to make yours that way.
God expects the married couple to be stronger spiritually than when they were both single.
Deuteronomy 32:30 says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up? That means the spiritual efforts of two people who are united in marriage, is supposed to be ten thousand times more effective than that of a single person. This kind of spiritual reinforcement results in all-round prosperity in the lives of the couple (3 John verse 2).
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 also says: Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Marriage is God’s strategy to ensure that the devil or the pressures of life never overcome His children. However, many women complain of not being as spiritually active as they were before marriage. Some claim it is because they are faced with greater responsibilities (a husband and children to cater for, meals to cook and general household chores), particularly if they are also employed outside the home.
I have been married for decades now, and blessed with four children and grandchildren. Yet, I am full of zeal in the service of the Lord; facing each day with a new determination to climb higher. The secret is that I embraced the Word of God that says, “Two are better than one…”, and used it to invigorate my life for a higher calling and service to God. You can do the same. God is no respecter of persons. He will also reward your efforts.
Every man is created to crave constant fellowship. It is one of the major motivating factors that draw two people of the opposite sex together. After creation, the only thing that God called “Not good” was the fact that man was alone. Loneliness has been discovered to be one of the causes of mental retardation and erratic behaviours in many people who are in that condition.
True companionship is what makes marriage meaningful. Spouses are not meant to be roommates but the closest of friends. It is unfortunate that many couples are missing out of this wonderful aspect of marriage. They live under the same roof, yet they are more or less strangers. Such marriages are empty and with time, their frustration leads to divorce. This is not the will of God. He expects you to have sweet communion not only with Him, but also with your partner. Proverbs 27:17 says: Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. There are some decisions I would have taken that would not have profited me; but because I am privileged to be married to a sincere and godly man, who is not only my husband, but also my best friend, confidant and closest adviser, those errors were avoided. Despite the years we have spent together as a couple, I still miss my husband a great deal whenever he is not around. That is a proof of companionship. You too can enjoy the fulfilment and honour that God has reserved for you in marriage by building your home according to His laid down purpose. You will not fail in Jesus’ Name.
If you are not born again, your marriage cannot escape difficulties and troubles. If you will accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour, you will experience a great change in your life and marriage. Please say this prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Single with a Difference, A Living Witness and Make Your Life Count.