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THE “WHY” FACTOR!

If you ask the average single lady or gentleman why they want to get married, more often than not, the answer is usually something like “I don’t know… Just because…” You may not have received that exact answer but the truth is that most times, the answer is not convincing. I remember when I was younger; I just wanted to get married because to me, it was normal to do so at a certain age.

However, as I got older I realized that answer wasn’t good enough for me anymore, especially since there were too many cases of separation or divorce and those who were married actually seemed worse off than we who were single. When I’m privileged to counsel, it’s not unusual for me to ask this question because I really want the individual to answer the “why” first before going through the process of courtship and becoming one flesh with another person. So, what’s your reason?

  • Is it because that’s the next best thing to do?
  • Is it because you feel the pressure?
  • Is it because everyone around you is doing so?
  • Is it because you feel incomplete?
  • Is it because you have a desire to fulfill your destiny with a suitable partner?
  • Is it because you desire to have a family unit of your own?
  • Is it because you want to achieve a marital status?
  • Is it because you feel you are getting old?
  • Is it because you want to experience this special gift of marriage from God?

The reasons may be endless!

What are your genuine reasons for desiring marriage? Whatever they are, it is important to know them. Be honest with yourself. That way, you will know if you are channeling your energy rightly. You’ll know if you are doing so for yourself or simply because of what is going on around you and what others are doing.

Most importantly, it would determine how you handle your marriage. I have learnt that those who place a high value on marriage handle it differently from those who perhaps just see marriage as a necessary evil to make the world go around. I don’t mean giving an answer that people will be intrigued by; I mean an answer that actually convinces and convicts YOU! An answer that tells you whether or not you are actually ready for this thing called marriage. In Luke 14:28, Jesus said something so profound: For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?

Good question! Before building a tower, you need to know why you actually want to build that tower in the first place. Knowing why helps you count the cost. Marriage is good but it’s not all fun and games.

There’s serious business in between and if you are only interested in fun and games, you’ll be most miserable in it, and what’s worse, your spouse will be more miserable.

Many who have gotten married have done so without thinking about the WHY! Whatever you do, know that marriage should be entered into with spiritual sensitivity and wisdom. Don’t be careless about it & don’t use your emotions alone to guide you into marriage; that will only generate a lifetime of bitter consequences. Knowing the WHY is part of what will help you make right choices.

You must have Christ in your life if you must make the right choice in marriage. This simply means that you must be born again and you can only do so by having a personal relationship with Him. You can do this by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”

Congratulations! I am so excited for you and look forward to your testimonies. Till I come your way next time, please call or write to share your testimonies with me through cpyfamily@yahoo.com and contact@faithoyedepo.org, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437.  You can connect with me on my Facebook page, called Crisis-Proof Your Family, and my blog – www.crisisproofyourfamilyblog.com !

For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Single with a Difference, Building a Successful Family, Making Marriage Work and Marriage Covenant.

Remain ever blessed!

Kemi Oyedepo

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