THE RIGHT ATTITUDE FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE (1)
Compliments of the season! May the love, joy, peace and blessing of this season be made manifest in your family in Jesus name. I will like you to set the pace for the new year by embracing the Right Attitude for a Healthy Marriage.
It is important to know that there are attitudes, that of necessity, should not be found in your home if you must enjoy a trouble –free marriage. Therefore, they must be avoided, as they cause stress, pain, arguments, quarrel, lack of peace, separation and sometimes, even divorce. A good knowledge of some of them will set your marriage free from the devil’s grip. This week, I shall be looking at one of them which is: Covetousness.
Covetousness is having an excessive crave for wealth or possessions, or even for someone else’s possessions. When you see something on someone and you immediately start scheming and planning to have it. A car or house you once loved suddenly becomes sub-standard and utterly unacceptable to you. Discontentment is what usually drives people into covetousness. Many people are “possession possessed”. They are never satisfied with what they have per time; nothing is ever enough. They always want more. The Bible says “Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man’s life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth” (Luke 12:15).
Covetousness is a sin that destroys and destabilizes many families and homes. It is the devil’s trap which always leads to dissatisfaction, anxiety and unholy comparison. As someone rightly said “Covetousness is the greatest misfortune. One who does not know what is enough will never have enough” People who are covetous are always anxious. Gehazi in 2 Kings 5:20 suffered the punishment of leprosy, when he yielded to anxiety caused by his lack of contentment.
The cure for covetousness is contentment. The Bible says, “And having food and raiment, let us be therewith content” (I Timothy 6:8). and 1 Timothy 6:6-7 also says: “…But godliness with contentment is great gain.” For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. I have never seen a man buried with all his possessions – no matter the quality of possessions he has! Lusting after material things so much that it takes the place of God in you is covetousness. Anything that takes the place of God is idolatry. Be contented with what you have. Anything you do not have now, you do not need. My husband always says, “Life is in phases and men are in sizes,” this is true.
Be assured of the fact that where you are today is the least place you will ever be. Your path is destined to shine brighter and brighter every passing day, until you get to God’s ultimate for your life. (Proverbs 4:18). Just accept the place you are now. God’s word says, “better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit than the proud in spirit” (Ecclesiastes 7:8). Nobody climbs a ladder from the top; rather a ladder is climbed rung by rung from the bottom to the top. Your future is bright, do not despise it like Esau, and eat your tomorrow today. Later, Esau sought for his inheritance with tears, but it was lost eternally (Hebrews 12:16-17). It was too late for him; may it not be too late for you!
Be excited about where you are now; your future is colourful and bright and you will get there. You don’t have to steal or cheat to have more, just be content and accept your present position. Some singles base their choice of life partner on the abundance of things the man has. They want a man with a big car, a highly paying job, a house etc. Any marriage that is founded on material possessions is on a shaky foundation and will soon fall apart. Don’t be blinded by material things. My husband and I had to start out at the first rung of the ladder in marriage and ministry. Many times we ate beans and garri for supper, so that we wouldn’t need breakfast the next day. At some other times, we didn’t know where and when the next meal was coming from! But God has always been very faithful. We are not at that point anymore!
Don’t fix your heart and affection on material things, as this will cause you to lose out on God’s placement for you. A covetous person, who is never satisfied with what he or she has per time, will run into dubious people and do criminal things. Material things come and go. You cannot afford to tie your life to them.
As a woman, do not compare your husband with your friend’s husband. Do not compare or nag your spouse for not possessing what your friend or your friend’s spouse has. Don’t push your spouse to do evil just to please you. When the punishment for that evil comes upon your spouse, you will suffer it too since you are the one married to him. Covetousness, walk with idolatry and pride. The ultimate end of this is destruction. (Proverbs 16:18). God’s Word in Proverbs 28:16(b) says, “… but he that hateth covetousness shall prolong his days.” This means that covetousness can rob you of long life!
To overcome covetousness, you need the grace of God upon your life. I see God giving you that grace today in Jesus’ name! In case you are reading this article and you are not born again, there is need for you to be born again. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. But, if you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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