In the first part of this article, I taught on the purpose for your creation as The Real Woman. In this concluding segment this month, we will be looking at “some qualities you possess as The Real Woman.”
Who, then, is a Virtuous Woman?
Remember, the Bible calls her a virtuous woman. In other words, virtuousness connotes goodness, decency, righteousness, morality and purity. It is conforming to the standards of what is right, just and approved codes of behavior. Virtuousness is the condition of being morally pure. The virtuous woman is a woman of strength; she is made strong by wisdom, grace and fear of God. Perhaps one reason for the rarity of a virtuous woman is that she is seldom sought.
The Word of God says: Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). A woman, who loves God in a righteous way expressing warmth and true affection, is a desirable wife. She will develop these characteristics as found in Galatians 5:22-23 which says: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
A Woman of Trust
One of the qualities of a virtuous woman is trust. A man is indeed blessed, if his wife is honest and discreet. Honesty with one’s self, God, and all those whose lives you touch as a woman is essential. The Word of God says: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil (Proverbs 31:11). I want you to know that trust is not a gift, but a virtue that must be built up through experience and over a period of time. As a woman, can you really be trusted by your husband? You need to show your husband that he can put his confidence in you.
In practical terms, trust means that you place confidence in someone to be honest with and faithful to you, and not to abandon you. Life is all about trust. There is no good marriage that can survive without trust. As a virtuous woman, your husband must be able to trust you with his past, present and future.
Your husband should be able to have confidence in you as his wife that you can really take care of certain issues that affect the family. I can never forget how, some years ago, my husband came to my office and handed me a blank cheque booklet, all signed. Why did he take that risk? It is because he had found me trustworthy in the handling of financial matters, and therefore, could trust me with the handling of the money in that account without regrets.
Today, there are some women that their husbands cannot trust with money. They cannot account for the feeding money given to them, not to talk of handing over an account with money to them. Some women are fond of using the money given to them for the up-keep of the house, to buy new dresses for themselves. A woman that wants her husband to trust her can never do such a thing. She will even go the extra mile to add her own money, if the amount given to her by her husband is not enough.
As a virtuous woman, you need to be truthful in all you say and do. Don’t be found to say one thing today and another tomorrow on the same issue. It’s not right. I want you to know that there is no substitute for truth! If you are a woman of double standards, it becomes difficult for your husband and others to trust you.
A Woman That Fears The Lord
What makes the virtuous woman complete? Her crown is that she “fears the Lord”. The Word of God says: Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates (Proverbs 31:30-31). Also, Proverbs 1:7 says: The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. The Bible in Psalm 19:9 says: The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring for ever: the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. Proverbs 10.27 says: The fear of the Lord prolongeth days….
In order to study ‘a woman that feareth the Lord’, we must first understand what it means to fear God.
What is the fear of God?
Charles Bridges gives us this definition: “It is that affectionate reverence by which the child of God bends himself humbly and carefully to his Father’s law. His wrath is so bitter, and His love so sweet, that hence springs an earnest desire to please Him.” Webster’s Dictionary defines fear as: A holy awe or reverence of God and His laws, which springs from a just view and real love of the divine character, leading the subjects of it to hate and shun everything that can offend such a holy being, and inclining them to aim at perfect obedience.
I want to ask you this question: As a woman, do you really fear the Lord? If you fear the Lord, it will show in your action, words and deeds. It will show in the way you worship God, the way you relate with your husband, children and every member of your family. Can your husband really say, “Oh? My wife really fears God”. If you are a woman that fears the Lord, it will reflect in the way you bring up your children.
One of the qualities of a virtuous woman described in Proverbs 31 is the ability to train her children aright. God expects that when your children remember you it should be for good. They should someday rise up, and without being compelled to, call you blessed. The Word of God says: Her children arise up and call her blessed: her husband also, and he praiseth her (Proverbs 31:28).
A virtuous woman will always know that her children have been given to her as a gift from God (Psalm 127:3). God has entrusted the lives of the children into your hand, giving you the privilege to steer them towards their destinies in life. In essence, you have the privilege to be a caretaker to your children. The Word of God says: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).
From the above scripture, it is observed that every child has the way he/she should go, and it is the responsibility of the parents to put them on the right track. As a woman, you are closer to your children than anyone else. It is, therefore, necessary for you to observe your children, know what they do best, where their strengths lie, what their weaknesses are and help them discover the right vocation to pursue.
If you are not born again, then, you don’t really know what it means to fear God. I want you to know that when you fear God, circumstances and problems will fear you. Having the fear of God begins with confessing your sins, repenting of them and surrendering your life to Christ. Do you want to do that? Why not say this prayer of faith with me: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary.
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).