Dear Reader, I believe you have begun to practically walk in all that was discussed in the last teaching on the purpose of singleness. May you begin to experience the purpose of God for you, in Jesus name. We shall continue today by looking at different ways in which singles can be useful.

  1. At home

As someone rightly said, “Charity begins at home.” It does not end there, but it begins from there. Your usefulness as a single should begin from home. Until you are useful at home, there is no guarantee that you will be useful outside the home. Let us examine some ways you can be useful at home.

Serve your parents in love

As a single, you must see every opportunity to serve at home as service unto the Lord and not just to family members alone. You should learn to and be practically involved in housekeeping, cooking, laundry, etc. When you do this, you attract parental blessings and their heart blesses you.

Understand that whatever skills you acquire becomes an asset to you in the future. Stop shifting responsibilities to others! Don’t wait for other family members to do what you are supposed to do at home. Many youths lack these skills. Today, many cannot even cook simple meals and this is affecting them a great deal, even in their relationships.

All the household chores I learnt and was involved in before I got married are now beneficial to me, even though back then, it was not convenient. Even if your parents are difficult to please, never be discouraged or give up; rather, serve from your heart as unto the Lord.

  1. In the Church

If your purpose for living does not include serving the Lord, then you do not have a right purpose for living. You should invest your single days serving in the house of God. Just as you will naturally discharge your responsibilities at home, you should not be compelled to serve in the house of God. You should locate an area where your strength can be channeled and rightly utilized in the Church. For example, if you have a good voice, the choir might be a good place for you to serve. Many opportunities abound. You only need to prayerfully make a choice that will enhance your destiny. Refuse to be a bench warmer in the Church, who only attend Church services. Whatever you do now is an investment; so, invest your best in the Church (Mathew 6:33).

  1. In the Society

As a single, you need to make positive contributions in your society, beginning with the community where you live. That special skill may be what your society will need for a time like this.  In Scriptures, many imparted their communities, societies and nations while yet single. David solved a national problem by saving the whole nation from shame at 17; he refused failure. Joseph utilized his gift of the interpretation of dreams to preserve the nation where he sojourned. He gave ideas that brought about economic empowerment for the nation of Egypt. Nehemiah was a nation builder; he took the courage to raise and re-build the ruined wall of Jerusalem. Esther was a fearless lady that saw herself as an ambassador of her people in the king’s court. She preferred to die than see her people unjustly massacred (Esther 4).

My husband, Dr. David O. Oyedepo, often tells a story of how he was deployed to work as a teacher on secondment in a little settlement down the Western part of Nigeria many years ago. On arrival, he noticed that there was no single church in that village. He said to himself that he would not leave that village without planting a Church. He was not a pastor as at that time, neither was he sent there as a missionary.

Through his determination and by the special grace of God, he successfully planted a vibrant Church in the place within 72 days and on his send forth, he was presented with a local bush lantern. The head of that community acknowledged the spiritual light the gospel of Jesus that he brought to their land had engendered and he prayed that this light of God in him would shine round the whole world. Today, proofs abound of that great light he had brought into the lives of many.

You can do likewise and much better. Give Him your best and he will make you the best.

To have a successful single life, you need Jesus in your life. You can accept Him now if you have not done so. If you will like to do this, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today”.

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ name. Call or write and share your testimonies with me through, and; or 07026385437 and 08141320204. For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Singles With A Difference, Make Your Life Count and Welcome to God’s Family.


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