God bless you. I welcome you once again to another time of enlightening concerning your family life. It’s my prayer that as you read through, your family testimony would become and remain colourful in Jesus’ name.
Last time, we focused on the components of effective communication–openness, trust & understanding. We also saw that for a marriage to be blissful and last a lifetime, effective communication is a must. With effective communication comes along a number of benefits, which we would take a look at this time around.
I believe you would find the list below to be most helpful. The good news is that they would find practical expression in your own home in Jesus’ name.
INTIMACY – This simply refers to the closeness of your relationship with your spouse. Effective communication tightens the bond between a husband and wife. When your spouse understands you very well, he/she would be closer to you than to anybody else. You will always be the one he/she wants to share information with. Anytime communication is shut off, intimacy suffers greatly, and a marriage that lacks intimacy, is a marriage that is dying. You and your spouse must be able to have a sense of closeness in your marriage – an assurance that you are on the same team. Without effective communication, you won’t have that.
Without effective communication, he or she would be pointing to someone else as their best friend, when it should be you. Intimacy allows you and your spouse to feel free to say exactly how you feel respectfully, even if your opinions differ. Where there is no intimacy, a husband may be found “bottling up” his feelings inside, which would only lead to the breakdown of the family unit, if not handled in a timely manner.
TRUST – Effective communication builds trust between a husband and wife. Trust was listed as a component and it is also a benefit because as intimacy grows, trust grows. Trust makes both people feel secure in the marriage and it removes any unknown fears and answers questions that a person might wonder about and be afraid to ask.
Trust also eliminates the opportunity for you to drift apart and feel exposed. As the communication gets better, the trust can only increase. The husband feels as though whatever he has said to his wife would not be heard outside of the home. A wife is able to share her fears, hopes, dreams, etc without the anxiety of being ridiculed by her husband.
PEACE – Effective communication always brings peace. There will be no arguing, quarrelling, etc, because both of you have been able to pass your message across effectively, without any misunderstanding. You are able to ask questions if you don’t understand what has been said. Because there is understanding, there is no room to misinterpret each other. Please note that I am not referring to the “for the sake of peace, I won’t say anything” type of peace, but you will be able to express yourself freely with wisdom that would only bring a positive conclusion.
SELF-AWARENESS – Effective communication gives you the opportunity to have a better understanding of yourself. For example, if you happen to have a disagreement with your wife and she tells you, “When you get angry, you say hurtful words”, she has made you more aware of yourself through your communication. Even though, it may not have been your intention to hurt her, you learn to restrain yourself and consider your words wisely, if you find yourself in such a situation again; you have become more aware of yourself.
The above list is not exhaustive, but helpful to know if your home is full of the benefits of effective communication. It is my prayer that as you apply what you have received, your profiting in your family life would appear unto all (1 Timothy 4:15), and these benefits will not elude your home in Jesus’ name.
These benefits are enormous; you need God’s grace to be able to communicate well. This grace can only be released by you confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you are saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”
Congratulations! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me firstname.lastname@example.org and email@example.com, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437 or 07094254102
For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, Understanding Motherhood and Make Your Life Count.
You are blessed forever.