THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE (2)
I welcome you to another fulfilling time in the study of God’s Word. Having considered the power of communication in the last edition, I shall be teaching on: The Benefits of Effective Communication in our journey to a blissful family life
Every worthwhile venture has its attendant gains so also does communication. The benefits of effective communication include, but are not limited to the following:
Friendship: Friendship is based on familiarity and emotional attachment. The more you communicate the more familiar you become with your partner. This in turn gets you attached emotionally to each other. You know, emotion is part and parcel of love. With emotional attachment, you start feeling for each other. My husband has said, when husband and wife stop feeling for each other, danger is at the door. Perhaps, one of the reasons for marital infidelity is the absence of emotional attachment to one another in marriage. The Bible made this a commandment for couples: …. Be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:19). “Ravished” means transported by delight. Communication will help you bridge this gap and ensure the sanctity of your home.
Intimacy: Intimacy here means closeness. This is because the more you learn to communicate, the closer you become; and the closer you are, the more difficult it is for the devil to find access into your relationship. Intimacy makes room for unity and God’s Word speaking about the power of unity says in Genesis 11:6: And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do. Even God himself recognizes the indestructible power of unity. So, exploit this benefit and see great and mighty things evolve out of your relationship.
Self-awareness: Effective communication helps you to know yourselves better. Your spouse and family members serve as human mirrors that help you locate the ‘stains on your back’, so the better part of you can come out. When the communication lines are open, you are able to better discover yourself through your spouse and or children. This, in turn, helps you to discover and correct certain flaws in your life and character, which you may not have known existed before. It makes you a better person in the long run. The Bible records in 1 Samuel 25 how by Abigail’s openness to communication she was not only able to save her family from destruction by the sword but also delivered David from bloodshed. Moreover, she ended up in her colourful place in destiny as a Queen in Israel. What a testimony!
Love and submission: It is a provoker of love from the husband and submission from the wife. One fundamental difference between a man and a woman is this: women are more expressive than men. So, even when a man is expressing his love by some other means, the woman is screaming, “He doesn’t even say I love you”. He has expressed his love in so many other ways like, cooking for her or helping her with the house chores or even taking the children out so they can get out of her way and give her room to relax or accomplish some other tasks, but she is waiting to hear the words “I love you”. This is a typical example of lack of effective communication.
Sometimes, when a woman does not obey the instructions of her husband, it may not necessarily be rebellion, or trying to be difficult, but could be because she lacks understanding. The Bible severally emphasized the place of understanding. In Proverbs 4: 5 & 7 the Bible says: Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; …Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. Understanding, in a family, is as important as wisdom by which the home is run. So, for effective communication to trigger love and submission, understanding must be in place.
When communication strategy is constantly improved, it stirs up love. When a man communicates well with his wife, it becomes easier to lavish his love on her; and the woman in turn finds it is easier to submit to him without being coerced.
All that we have discussed so far will not be realisable without God’s help. To access his help, you must be born again. To be born again, you have to accept Jesus as Lord and personal Saviour of your life. To do this, you should say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born-again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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