Another major part played when finding a marriage partner is the act of proposing and accepting proposal. When your decisions have been made concerning whom your partner should be, then you have to MAKE THE MOVE. Making the move requires the man simply walking up to the lady he has chosen to marry and telling her that he wants to marry her in a simple language without beating about the bush. Some men embarrass ladies with statements like “God told me that you will be my wife” or “I saw you and I in a dream marching to the altar to be joined”. Such statements embarrass ladies and many find it difficult to even seek God’s guidance. Even if God told you, or you saw the person in a dream, wisdom is needed in presentation. It is good to be simple even in presentation. This will make it easy for the other party to pray and receive God’s leading.
The woman, just like the man, also has a right to choose who she wants to marry. However, some ladies are often guilty of nonchalance in responding to moves made by men. It is not the best thing to do. When someone proposes marriage to you and you are sure that your answer is ‘Yes’, then make it known to the person. Don’t keep a man waiting under the guise that you are thinking, praying about it or just trying him out for years!
To the glory of God, I happen to have known God early in life and started praying about a partner early in life, quite some years before I met my husband. I remember I asked God specifically for His will in my life and I was ready to accept His will. After praying, I knew that God had heard and answered my prayer. I discovered that my heart was at rest; no anxiety, no worry, though I hadn’t met the person face-to-face and I didn’t know who he was. One significant thing that I discovered after this time was that for every man that ever came to me, the Spirit of God always immediately told me what the answer was; so I just gave them the answer without a waste of time.
I thank God because this saved me the trouble of entering into courtship that was not in His will. I was constantly open to the Spirit of God and whatever He told me, I did. I had peace in my heart. At the time I met my husband, ever before he spoke to me, the Spirit of God in me gave me witness, and I knew I was going to marry him. I, however, decided to wait until he made the move using a simple language spoken in wisdom. He said: “Would you want to marry me? Do you think we can go into marriage together? Why not pray about it and let me know what your answer is?”
My heart was filled with joy and after sometime, I gave him my answer and courtship started. I never had any contrary thought that we would have a successful home. Now, we have been married for years with four wonderful children and grand children; yet, our path even in the home has been shining brighter and brighter with no cause for regret at all. To God be the glory.
Making the right moves in finding a marriage partner can summarily be likened to you putting your faith to work. You have desired it, made yourself fit for it and prayed about it. Now is the time to boldly go ahead to take it. In a world filled with lies and pretence, only God’s guidance can guarantee your safety when making your choices. God knows the end from the beginning and embracing Him, will save you from making irrevocable mistakes.
You embrace God, when you confess Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour and become born again. To accept Jesus Christ right now, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).