I know that you have received knowledge on how to find a marriage partner. As you put the same knowledge into practice, you will begin to enjoy positive result in Jesus’ name. Remember to always keep your desire in place and make God your focus while making your choice. Today, I will be showing you some necessary prerequisites for choosing a marriage partner. These are some things that must uncompromisingly be in place, if a successful marriage is what you want for the future:
Your marriage proposal must be based on clear answers to distinctive questions like: Do we have the same goal? Are we going in the same direction? Whoever you choose to marry must be compatible with you. God’s Word in Amos 3:3 says: Can two walk together, except they be agreed? God is not an author of confusion, so He will never lead you to marry someone that you will always disagree with. There must be an agreement physically, spiritually, and mentally.
Physically, your choice must match your expectations in appearance and composure. Your choice should be one that you would be happy to be identified with and not someone you feel ashamed to be seen with. Spiritually, your choice must be a fellow believer. Your choice must have accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour and he or she a Christian in its true meaning. Just as it is impossible for light and darkness to dwell together, so also it’s not practicable for a Christian to choose an unbeliever as a life partner and expect success.
Some people conclude that since they have waited for so long and have not gotten the right person to marry, then whoever comes, even an unbeliever is okay for them. The future success of marriage is more important than how long you have waited. Wait for God’s time. Don’t ever think that you can change an unbeliever. Rather, it is easier for an unbeliever to make you backslide than for you to save him or her.
A TRUE LOVER OF GOD
In your findings, seek for someone who is God-fearing; someone, who loves God, His Word, and Kingdom service. By this, I don’t just mean someone who is a Christian but one who is a Christian in spirit, truth and action. You also must be a lover of God, His Word and Kingdom service, as these will guarantee God’s sure help in your decision-making. There are several cases beyond human comprehension whereby well-educated, good-looking and responsible singles are unable to find marriage partners due to various wicked oppression of the devil. The only way to fight back and receive victory over this situation is by acknowledging God as the higher force of light over darkness and with God, all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26, Mark 10:27 and Luke 1:37). Please note that a happy home is neither a function of beauty nor your job, but of the favour of God and I see you experience this in Jesus’ name.
Here are few testimonies that will surely rekindle your hope in God:
I was 37 years old and had been expecting a husband for about 15 years, but nothing was forthcoming. Some of my relations and friends kept advising me on how to live my life alone as a single lady. I had agreed with them until I came in contact with this Ministry and became a part of it. After hearing several teachings on God’s Word and one statement by the Bishop’s wife that “God has done all things well,” I made this my song throughout the remaining part of the year and then, God did it! My husband proposed in October, and I got married in February 1997. – Okolo, J. (Mrs.)
Last July, I was a bachelor, and believed God for a wife. I was really tired of being lonely in my life. In one of the services, we were told to write whatever represented a problem in our lives on a piece of paper and dance over it. I wrote that God should make me a husband before the end of that year. That night, I danced my way out of loneliness, and now, I am married! Glory be to God. -Adeniyi, D.
I graduated from the university at the age of 26 with my mind set for marriage but this was not so until I was 46 years! I had to hold on to God’s Word and learn to walk with the Lord based on His Word in the midst of pressure from everyone. At age 44, I met a young man, (a Muslim and very comfortable) and a relationship with him seemed promising, but I told myself that I should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. So, I refused to give in.
In February 2000, God used the Bishop’s wife to draw my attention to a Bible verse in Isaiah 34:16 and I held on to this verse when the billows rolled and societal pressure was very high.
In August 2000, I saw in my dream that my head was full of dandruff tangled hair, and a mighty hand removed it all in a way that I woke up praising God. I knew that a battle was on. It was clear that for all these years, I had been under the curse of marriage impossibility and God’s Word broke that yoke forever! Thereafter, my husband emerged and proposed to me! Since then, the peace of God bubbles in my heart and belly like rivers of water. Now we are happily married. Truly, the Lord is the ‘Rewarder’ of those who diligently seek Him. –Dr. (Mrs.) Oyegbile
If you will like to accept the ‘Rewarder’ today, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).