You are welcome to another time with God in this column. Last segment, I taught on who a spinster is, the reasons for family pressure and some of the things to avoid while waiting for God to perfect His plans concerning your marital destiny.
Today, I shall be examining, How to Handle Family Pressure.
First and foremost, you must locate your purpose for living and pursue it with all vehemence. You must not allow the desire to get married rob you of your purpose. People struggle, run and sweat, but in most cases, with little or no result to show for it. Why? Because many are living without purpose. Those with purpose does not know how to go by it. If I may ask you, What are you living for? What is your purpose in life? The Bible says: Be ye not as the horse, or as the mule, which have no understanding (Psalms 32:9).
What is your essence of living? Why are you on the surface of this earth? What does God require of you, in order to have a fulfilled life? I want you be aware that marriage is not equal to automatic fulfillment in life.
Let’s see what the Word of God says is the right purpose for living. Deuteronomy 10:12 says: And now, Israel, what doth the Lord thy God require of thee, but to fear the Lord thy God, to walk in all his ways, and to love him, and to serve the Lord thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul…
This is what God requires of everyone. Do you have the fear of the Lord? Do you have time to seek out of the Book of the law to know God’s requirement for your fulfilled life? What are you living for? You must get your priorities right this year, if you are to actually see and enjoy life that is free of family pressure. Let us look at the following requirements:
Fear The Lord Thy God:
‘Fear’ in this context is not talking of being afraid, rather, it connotes respect and reverence to God and His Word. Whatever He says, let it be your guiding principle, this year and beyond. Walk in the understanding that you have a Head, who watches over you, your doings and movement, so, reverence and respect Him. Whatever He tells you to do, you will do it without questions or grumbling. This is the fear of the Lord.
Walk In All His Ways:
You cannot walk in His ways, except you have Him in respect and reverence. When He says, “Turn to the right,” you don’t turn to the left. When He commands you to wait, you don’t get impatient and move.
This is the first commandment, and God reiterates it here, that He requires your love. Love God in all your doings and towards all around you.
God does not only require you to fear, love and walk with Him, He also requires you to serve Him. How? You are to serve Him with your heart, means and time. You can’t genuinely serve somebody you don’t love. When your love is in place for God, you will willingly serve Him with your being.
Now that you have an idea of God’s requirement for your life, are you living for the right purpose? The Bible says in Lamentation 3:40: Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the Lord. Living for the right purpose makes for fulfillment, otherwise, the struggle will continue. God only guides those who will obey Him.
Engage in Kingdom Service:
Your service in the Kingdom is another major key that can free you from pressure and position you for your desired miracle. The Bible says: And ye shall serve the Lord your God, and he shall bless… (Exodus 23:25). What positions you for marital blessing is Kingdom service. God does not only require you to fear, love and walk with Him, He also requires that you serve Him. Service will occupy you and you will be less worried about your situation.
Are you involved in Kingdom service? Don’t just sit down and occupy a seat in church, contributing nothing! It gets people frustrated. Find a place of service. Get involved and serve God acceptably.
How do you serve God acceptably? Heartily! You cannot genuinely serve somebody you do not love. When your love is in place for God, you will willingly serve Him with your being. Your testimony is the next!
It takes your accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour to be able to satisfy these requirements. If you want to be born again, say this prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins, cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
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