Dear Reader, 

In the last edition, we examined some factors that may hinder women from calling out for help. Today, we shall consider more of these factors and what can be done to correct that.


A lazy woman is slow, not willing to work and put effort into anything; therefore, she is prone to all manners of harassment. The Bible says, Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord (Romans 12:11). May God deliver you from the spirit of laziness in Jesus name. Some women are too lazy at so many things. Lazy in prayer, reading books, reading the Bible, and even in relating to others. Wake up from your slumber and begin to put more effort into life so it can deliver its best to you! Laziness is exhibited in procrastination. I will do it later, next week; before long, a year is gone and the situation still remains. That is not you in Jesus name.


Spiritual insensitivity is the undoing of many. The Bible says, Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light (Ephesians 5:14). A lot of things happen per time, so seek fresh encounters with God. Seek for fresh anointing per day, update yourself and seek progress continuously. Remember the Word of God says, See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil (Ephesians 5:15-16).


Some women do not call for help even when they know they need one due to frustration. Their past efforts and plans seem not to have been able to achieve their desired goals. They have tried all they seem to know but it is not working. So, they are reluctant to seek any further help. Please bear in mind the fact that there is no situation that is hopeless. Naman, the centurion leper had sought for help from various places but his leprosy remained. When he finally got to the place of help in Israel, he almost missed it as a result of frustration (2 Kings 5:11-13). Usually, the enemy brings frustration when you are closest to your help. You will not be frustrated out of your help zone in Jesus name.


Some do not call for help because they do not feel safe or protected. They are afraid of being disappointed. That you have experienced some disappointment in some persons in time past does not mean that everyone will let you down, not keeping your secret.  Do not let this stronghold rob you of your desired and much needed help. Do not be intimidated about what people might say if you open up to them and they get to know you more intimately. What you need is a solution to your situation; in as much as you get it, you are safe.

Having examined why some women refuse to call for help, let us look at how to overcome challenges so as not to die in silence.

Ask Relevant Questions

Assumption usually breeds frustration. A woman that is given to assuming many things, for example, would not enjoy peace at home. Why should you assume when you have a mouth to ask? One of the reasons God gave you a mouth is so you can ask questions when necessary! The Bible says, For I will give you a mouth and wisdom, which all your adversaries shall not be able to gainsay nor resist (Luke 21:15). Your mouth is not just for eating and drinking, it is a weapon of war! Even God does not encourage assumption. Despite the fact that He knows whatever you are passing through, He still expects you to ask necessary questions so you can receive clarifications. He said, For every one that asketh receiveth (Luke 11:10). If you do not ask, do not expect an answer.

Watch and Pray

Apart from impartation, you can also enjoy help rather than die in silence through prayer and watching. God, in His Word, clearly says, Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not (Jeremiah 33:3). The subject of prayer in your quest for help cannot be over emphasised. God is the only one that can give you help when other helps fail. As your heavenly father, He promised to answer whenever you call. Remember the Word of the Lord which says, Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near (Isaiah 55:6).

Sincere Self Examination

Another way out, so as not to die in silence is by conducting self-examination. The Psalmist said, Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts (Psalm 139:23).  Some of the problems that many women encounter are self-inflicted. If a self-appraisal can be carried out from time to time, you will discover that you will have fewer problems to solve. First, sit down and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you the areas that require attention in your life. Examine yourself first. Carry out an honest assessment of yourself from time to time. You are the best examiner of yourself. Ask yourself, ‘what is my motive for taking the steps that I take? Is it for my selfish gain or for the benefit of others and the kingdom of God?’ If your motives are pure, your life will be flooded with peace. But if otherwise, you will not have peace. The absence of peace results in tensions in different areas of life.

Read Relevant Books

The Bible says in Proverbs 26:20, Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out…. You need the ‘wood’ of wisdom in order to overcome some of the overwhelming challenges that may come your way as a minister’s wife. How do you gather the wood? One way is by reading relevant and edifying books. You need wisdom in every aspect of your life and ministry. If wisdom is lacking, you will be bound to struggle. The Bible says: Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

(Proverbs 4:7).


Not to die in silence, you must know how to use the weapon of fasting appropriately. The Bible says, howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting (Matthew 17:21).

Trust God

Your absolute dependence on God is the foundation of every other step you take to get out of any predicament. The Bible says, If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?                                                                               (Psalm 11:3). Trust God that He will help you, couple it with the understanding that He may decide to use people around you to help you out. Believe that He will perform what He stated in His word, The LORD hear thee in the day of trouble; the name of the God of Jacob defend thee; Send thee help from the sanctuary, and strengthen thee out of Zion (Psalm 20:1-2). Maintain your trust in God, no matter the situation. Absolute dependence on the Holy Spirit is a must.


The first step to living a fulfilled life, away from frustration, begins with Jesus Christ in your life. You need to be born again. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: The Effective Minister’s Wife, Understanding Motherhood, Raising Godly Children, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).



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