Dear Reader,

Peace and blessings be multiplied unto you in Jesus name. I am glad to bring God’s Word your way again today because I know that the Lord has something new for you. I see Him doing a new thing in your life in Jesus’ mighty name!  My topic today is, Speak Up!

It is quite unfortunate that many women have suffered for so long in silence, they have continued to live unfulfilled lives and are frustrated.  Many things are going wrong on the home front, yet they keep silence; never seeking help or godly counsel.  The Bible says, …but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up (Ecclesiastes 4:10).

Are you being faced with loneliness, or you feel you are not giving your children adequate attention? Maybe your problem is finances or it has to do with ill health or marital challenges, don’t keep it to yourself. There is no wisdom in dying in silence. Open up and give more meaning to your life. Proverbs 11:14 says, where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.

It is not as if there is no help around but they refused to call for one. Maybe they do not want others to know or they feel that without their talking, people around should understand, know and attend to their needs. Even the dumb call your attention by making  signs of a certain sort; they communicate!  That means you cannot successfully pass across any message in silence.  You need to speak up! If at all there is any message being passed across, such a message can be misinterpreted and misunderstood. It is therefore important for you to make a sound that can be understood.

There is no man on earth that can read what is in your mind or what you are going through, that is why you have to open up so you don’t die in silence! Only God is the Omniscient, the all-knowing. Even with this attribute, He still demands that we open our mouth and ask. The Bible says, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you (Matthew 7:7).

Unfortunately, in process of time, many resort to and become addicted to drugs, food, pornography, and alcohol and such other things that they feel will help them out of their predicament. Then one day after months or years of ‘hiding’ from the truth, something terrible happens – divorce, a police case, adultery, the disintegration or collapse of a ministry and so on. This shall not be your portion in Jesus name.

Let us consider some factors that have hindered many from calling for help:


As someone rightly said, Pride builds walls between people, humility builds bridges. From scripture, we also understand that nothing is new under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1: 9). Whatever you are going through, or whatever you are doing, somebody somewhere has gone through or done something similar before. There is also somebody somewhere doing something similar to it right now. It is wisdom to connect and learn from such people. Calling for help when you need it is not a sign of weakness, rather; it is wisdom! So, do not give room to pride by refusing to seek godly counsel. Pride is a destroyer; it shall not destroy many great destinies, don’t let it destroy yours! The Bible says, Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16: 18).

Making Excuses

Quit making excuses for things that are going wrong. Abigail is an example of a wise woman as recorded in the Bible (1 Samuel 25:14-28). She could have used her husband’s foolishness as an excuse not to be liberal and that would have resulted to blood birth in her home. Instead, she opened up.  Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him: but I thine handmaid saw not the young men of my lord, whom thou didst send. Now therefore, my lord, as the LORD liveth, and as thy soul liveth, seeing the LORD hath withheld thee from coming to shed blood, and from avenging thyself with thine own hand, now let thine enemies, and they that seek evil to my lord, be as Nabal (1 Samuel 25:25-26). Stop making excuses for things that are going wrong, Instead, be a woman of wisdom; take action, make a move and seek help.


Stop covering up! Do not pretend that things are going the right way when you know they are not. Who are you deceiving? Do you want to live in deceit all your life? Pretence is what the Bible calls hypocrisy. Jesus was always against hypocrites. Speaking about this, the Bible says, unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within Woe they are full of extortion and excess (Matthew 23:25). Stop consoling yourself with the fact that it is so with everybody! You’ll be surprised that you are the only one left, still caught in the web of pretence; others have left! Wake up and begin to take action. Be open and sincere with yourself.


According to a popular saying, Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance…. It is one other major reason why many women keep to themselves, dying inside! Little wonder then, the Bible says, My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children (Hosea 4: 6). The truth that you know is the one that can make you free! Remember: ‘what you don’t know maybe what is killing you’. Inadequate information about a particular situation can pose a problem.

 We have examined some factors that may hinder women from calling out for help. It is therefore important for us to look at what can be done to correct that:

Be Open to Receiving Godly Counsel

  1. First from God: Open up to God; let Him know what you are going through. He is The very present help (Psalm 46: 1). Counsel is available in His Word. Search the scriptures. Be filled with the knowledge of the Word of God, let it dwell in you richly (Colossians 3:16). This will help to balance any other form of counsel that you might receive.
  2. From Others: Prayerfully let God lead you to the right person or persons to talk to. Everybody may not approach your issue with the right attitude or offer the right counsel, However, your counselors must be carefully and prayerfully selected. Choose people with proven, tested and undeniable testimonies in the specific area where you desire to excel. Do not just seek counsel from someone that you know is struggling with a related issue. While Moses was leading the children of Israel through the wilderness, due to his lack of experience he almost wore himself out but for the counsel of his father in – law. Jethro (Moses Father in – law) said: Harken now unto my voice, I will give thee counsel, and God shall be with thee… So Moses harkened to the voice of his father in – law, and did all that he had said (Exodus 18:19a, 24).


The first step to living a fulfilled life and be from frustration begins with Jesus Christ in your life. You need to be born again. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: The Effective Minister’s Wife, Understanding Motherhood, Raising Godly Children, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).




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  1. Tingon Rose MAMAGRACE : July 16, 2019 at 6:00 pm

    Thanks very much for the advice. Just what I needed at this point in time. God bless you abundantly and more grace Ma.

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