A wise man once said, “Attractive packaging sells products.” As a teenager, you are a salesman; therefore, everything about you matters. It is this everything that is called self-packaging – your comportment, personality, character, etc.
One fundamental issue that runs through the lives of many teenagers is the lack of a proper understanding of their worth or importance. This explains why many young people look to the wrong sources for acceptance, help, comfort or counsel. Some even choose the wrong profession, all in an attempt to cover up.
Others get involved in all manner of vices such as occultism, drugs, wrong relationships and the like, seeking from external sources something which is actually locked within them. To a large extent, the way you package and comport yourself affect your worth and acceptance.
Let me begin by defining what self is. Self is defined as a person’s inner being, a person’s nature and personality, the qualities that make up an individual, the entire person of an individual, an individual’s typical character or behaviour. Packaging is defined as materials used to wrap or protect goods, a covering, wrapper or container. Self-packaging, is therefore, the outer covering over a person’s true nature, being, personality, character, behaviour, individuality and identity.
The word ‘comportment’ means to bear, conduct, bring together, carry, and to behave in a manner conformable to what is proper and expected. One of the most important questions you must ask yourself is, “How am I conducting myself?” If your life is to attract the kind of attention desired, then you must begin to conduct yourself in a manner that reflects that expectation. In other words, how you behave, talk, dress and walk will determine how people will respond to you. Let us examine these vital areas in detail.
In this teaching, we shall be exploring the secrets of how to carry and comport yourself with elegance, without any pretense or ingenuity. This understanding will surely bring you added value, meaning, joy, fulfillment, which will enhance your worth and acceptance, bringing you fulfillment in life. Follow very closely here, as we examine these secrets.
This is the first secret. There’s something that you were uniquely created for, to accomplish on this earth. Jeremiah 1:5 says: Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.
So, there is something that you and only you, can do. That is what you are fashioned for in your generation. But you have a responsibility to discover it, to find it out. This explains why the Bible says: It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter (Proverbs 25:2).
Discovery is the art of finding out, what already exists but is not yet known. When you discover your life purpose, it will influence every other aspect of your life. You will have the key to happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment. Your packaging and comportment can be most significantly enhanced, when you are doing something that you are shaped for. You can only fulfill your innermost aspirations, when you engage in doing something that interests you, which holds your attention; something you are created for. May you find it on time!
Here is the second secret. You didn’t just happen, you were made! You are also not an afterthought, you were specially crafted! The Bible says: Know ye that the LORD he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture (Psalm 100:3).
It is crucial for you to accept and believe in what God has made you to be. What has God made you to be? An understanding of this will definitely enhance your carriage and comportment in no small measure.
A New Creature: At salvation, you became a new creature (2 Corinthians 5:17). Your lineage changed for the better. You became a member of God’s family, where Jesus belongs. Old things such as sin, guilt, condemnation, are passed away; you are now brand new! Not a modification of your old status, but totally brand new. Congratulations! You now have what it takes to walk in the newness of life.
A Royal Priesthood: You belong to royalty (1 Peter 2:9). You are a royal being – a king, queen, prince, princess. In the natural, these have their way of carrying themselves with elegance; they live in the consciousness of who they are and where they come from. This affects how they present themselves. Even in the public, their comportment is unique. Spiritually, this is who God has made you. So, learn a lesson from the natural. Carry yourself with royalty from henceforth, comport yourself as a king and queen. You are unique!
Salt of the Earth: Salt sweetens and preserves, among other things. It has a very pleasant, special and enjoyable taste and flavour when applied. It adds value. This is who you are on this earth, to give it taste (Matthew 5:13). This is meant to reflect in the way you carry and comport yourself. May you not lose your Savour!
The Light of the World (Matthew 5:13-16). Light makes it possible to see things, thereby avoiding stumbling. As light to your world, you are meant to illuminate your generation, set the pace by taking the lead in showing others how to get things done. You are also meant to give direction to your world. So, when darkness covers the earth and gross darkness the people, you lighten it, demonstrating it among other things by the way you carry and comport yourself. Your light shall never be turned to darkness.
You are an Ambassador (2 Corinthians 5:20). You are a representative of Jesus on earth, so, you are by privilege, to enjoy the immunity of heaven. This gives you authority against everything contrary to your wellbeing here on earth, in every area of your life, such as your health, mind, future, etc. This in turn should affect the way you carry yourself! You are what God says you are! As a teenager, believe it, think it, behave it and it will naturally affect your carriage and comportment.
Thirdly, it is important that you learn to live your life one day at a time. Many young people today are anxious about life and this deals a deadly blow on them, eventually affecting the way they carry and comport themselves. The Bible says: Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God (Philippians 4:6 (NAS).
Surely, anxiety-causing situations will arise, but the good news is that what it takes to overcome is within reach. We live in a world filled with negativism, misfortune, chaos, calamity, disaster, pressure, stress and the list is endless! Hardly does any newspaper report bring joy. Jesus lived an anxiety-free life, so you can too.
In many young people, anxiety has led to fear – of tomorrow, failure, rejection and so on. In others, it has led to the hurry to ‘make it’ in life, which in turn lures them to getting involved in many unbelievable vices. They cannot wait for their tomorrow; they want to live it today. As far as some are concerned, God is too slow for them in this fast world! Some others are plagued with peer pressure, which leads to covetousness and the like.
Do not forget that every big thing in life starts small. Every tree with fruits came out of a seed. Every long journey begins with one little step after another and with time eventually gets accomplished! Remember the popular saying, Rome was not built in a day? The same is true about life! God is not slow (2 Peter 3: 9).
The cares, riches and pleasures of this life choke up the destinies of many teenagers thereby robbing them of the exemplary lifestyle they are destined to live (Luke 8:14). But as for you, your case is different. So, when men say there is a casting down, you keep saying there is a lifting up. You should live each day of your life as it comes to the full. You shall not fail!
To live above anxiety and live each day of your life as it comes, being born-again is the key. To be born-again, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to be born-again, say this simple prayer with me, in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died and rose again for my sake. Forgive me of my sins, take over my life, make me Your child and let Your peace reign over my life. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born-again!
Congratulations, you are now born-again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
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