It is important for you to know that before searching, you must have the knowledge of what marriage is all about. This is because knowledge is the key to fulfillment, but ignorance destroys (Hosea 4:6). That is why in this segment, I will be teaching on What You Need to Know About Marriage.
Marriage is the oldest institution in the world and it has its root in divinity. God Himself instituted it. The Word of God says: The Lord God…made… a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:22). Marriage is the union, the coming together of two people of opposite sex, with a view to building a God-centred home.
Marriage is a unique relationship
Marriage is a unique relationship ordained by God, for man and woman to give and receive satisfaction for their healthy needs and desires. This relationship is unique, because it involves their spirit, soul and body. Spiritually, their lives must have been transformed, being born-again, becoming new creatures and therefore, belonging to the same spiritual Kingdom. In the realm of the soul, both of them should have the same mind concerning various issues, especially the principles of the doctrine of Christ, as stated in Hebrews 6:1-2, for two cannot walk together except they be agreed (Amos 3:3).
Marriage is for a lifetime
As someone that is searching for a partner, you must know that marriage is for a lifetime. It is, therefore, not to be entered into unadvisedly. It is important to know what marriage is all about before you say, “I do” to anyone. When God instituted marriage, He never had divorce in mind. So, divorce is not part of God’s design for marriage.
Marriage is a covenant
It is very important for you to know also that marriage is a covenant relationship, not a promise. A covenant is different from just a promise. A promise is a verbal or written undertaking, to do or not to do something. There are no conditions attached to a promise. A covenant is, however, a formal contractual agreement between two or more parties, with each party agreeing to do something as a prerequisite to receiving some benefits. A breach of the agreement by any party disqualifies him or her from reaping the rewards and privileges attached to the covenant.
Many people, especially Christians, think that a good marriage is a promise from God, so they wait endlessly for the fulfillment of that promise. Others think it comes by wishing, so they keep on wishing. There is an adage that says, “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.” A good home or marriage is not a promise from God, neither does it come by wishing; it is by covenant practice!
The marriage covenant involves two parties: God on one hand and the man (and his wife) on the other. God is the Initiator of the covenant and His terms of agreement are sealed up in His Word. Man on his part is required to obey God’s terms of the agreement. God’s side of the covenant is constant because He is invariable and faithful! The Word of God says: For I am the Lord, I change not (Malachi 3:6). God will always fulfill His own side of the covenant. The man (and his wife) who are the second party in the marriage covenant are the variables.
Obey the terms of the covenant
It is the duty of the man and his wife to obey the terms of the covenant, if they are to enjoy abundance and fulfillment in their marriage. The husband and his wife must be ready to obey the terms of agreement as stated in God’s Word, so they can reap the rewards that go with obedience. Disobedience of man (and his wife) to the terms of the covenant as stated in God’s Word is usually the cause of many marital sorrows, problems, frustration and eventual divorce. Since marriage is a legal contract involving two people, the man and his wife, each of them has to fulfill his or her own part of the covenant, if they are to enjoy the best that marriage has to offer.
Many people want to eat the fruit of a happy home, but are not ready to be obedient to the terms of the covenant. The Word of God says: If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). Outside obedience, the fruit of a good home cannot be obtained. A good home is therefore, the fruit of obedience.
Fulfilling the marriage responsibility
The responsibility of the man is to govern the home and cater for the needs of his family (this includes spiritual, physical and material needs). The Word of God says: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church (Ephesians 5:23). But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Timothy 5:8).
The role of the woman in the covenant is to submit to the man. (Ephesians 5:22). In essence, if the man and his wife are to experience fulfillment in marriage, then they must adhere to the terms of the covenant of marriage.
God’s own role in the covenant
God assures us that if, as husband and wife, we fulfill our own responsibilities and build our home, He will ensure that this home remains built, guaranteeing fulfillment for every member of the home.
The power to accept keep the responsibility of marriage can be given to you, by surrendering your life to Christ. If you are ready to surrender your life to Christ, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, and firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
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