Last week, I taught you what you need to know about marriage. This last segment, I want to show you The Prerequisites for Searching.
Have a desire
The first thing to do when searching for your missing rib is to have a desire. You don’t search without a desire. Don’t just pretend not to need a partner, when you are actually in need because marriage is honourable. (Hebrews 13:4). Admit that you are in need of a partner before God and man both in public and in private, without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. If you have an occasion to declare it, declare your stand on the issue; be bold about it. So, your desire for marriage is holy and not carnal, if you follow God’s approach to it.
Search in prayer
Searching for your missing rib is a very crucial moment in one’s life. It is a lifetime decision in which God’s intervention is highly indispensible. A major way of ensuring God’s involvement in a matter, is by seeking His face in prayer. The Word of God says: Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and he shall bring it to pass (Psalm 37:5). It is very important that you come to God in prayer with an open spirit. Be confident that God loves you. He knows your end from the beginning and wants the best for you. You have to be specific in your prayer.
Here is a testimony of a sister who put her desire in place and her prayer was answered:
“During one of the Victory Celebrations, I heard two things that brought light into my life.
The Bishop’s wife said, ‘God has done all things well’, which became my song throughout the remaining part of the year. When the Bishop came up, he said, ‘At the end of every seven years, there shall be a release.’ I had prayed from home that my case should be mentioned during the Victory Celebration. When he said, ‘At the end of seven years’, I said to myself, ‘But my case is more than seven years.’ As if he heard me, he said, ‘Even if it is more than seven years or under seven years, as long as you are part of this commission now, you are released.’
That was how God released me from a bondage that was over seven years and gave me a wonderful husband that I had been praying for! I was 37 years old. I had been expecting a husband for about 15 years, but nothing was forthcoming. Some of my relations, including those that were born again, kept advising me on how to live my life alone, as a single lady. I had agreed with them until I came in contact with this Ministry and became a part of it. Then God did it! My husband proposed in October 1996 and I got married in February 1997.” – Okolo, J. (Mrs.)
I see God giving you your own testimony today!
Apply the Deep Sleep Concept
The concept of deep sleep connotes no anxiety, no worry and absolute rest. After you have prayed, you need to relax your mind (Philippians 4:6). God put Adam to a deep sleep, while He formed the woman. This miracle could not take place without rest in God. Adam needed a wife, God caused a deep sleep to come upon him, then He took a rib from his side with which He formed Eve. Having prayed to God concerning the choice of your marriage partner, you need to apply the concept of “deep sleep” which teaches that you refuse to be anxious about that situation.
Having taken the above steps, the next thing to do is to give thanks. Give thanks always, if you believe that God heard your prayers. After giving thanks, apply patience. All these are preparations of faith and before long, you will see the manifestation.
Make yourself fit
You must make yourself fit to be searched for. Make yourself fit to be found. Don’t just look for the “right” person, be a “right” person yourself. Birds of the same feather only flock together. No right person will want to marry a “wrong” person. Water seeks its own level. There is a right person who will fit-in with you, to make a complete union that will fulfill the purpose for which God established marriage. It is very easy for one to be looking out for the “right person”, probably laying out specific qualities to be possessed by such individual, without quite considering whether you are in a right condition to be found by another person. The all-important step for searching is to make yourself as good as the type of person you are searching for.
Speak out your marriage intention
After you have taken the above steps, the next thing to do is to go ahead and make your intention known to the person you have searched for, but allow the person time to pray about it, too, and be led of God. You shouldn’t beat about the bush or harass her when telling her you want to marry her. All you need to do is to go straight to the point and tell her your intentions. You are the one that will take this responsibility and not your friend, uncle, or any other person. The individual’s consent is very important, since walking together has to be by agreement between the two of you. If truly you have been led of God, be sure that that same God will make it known to the other party, because He is not the author of confusion.
Some men embarrass ladies and some find it difficult to even seek God’s guidance. Even if God told you, or you saw the person in a dream, wisdom demands that you present it in a good manner. It is good to be simple even in your presentation. This will make it easy for the other person to pray and receive God’s leading. Some Christian ladies are guilty of poor response to moves made by men. It is not the best thing to do. When a man approaches you for marriage, as soon as you have your answer from God, wisdom demands that you make it known.
The ability to be able to search for the right person can only come from God, if you surrender to Him. This entails confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That is how to be born again. If you want to be born again, say this prayer please: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, and firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
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