You are welcome to this second half of the month. Indeed, you will agree with me that it has being a peaceful and great month. I started with you on the Rules of Friendship. I defined what friendship is and some of the rules to consider while choosing a friend.
Making friends is good and important to life, but having the right friends make your journey on the earth more profiting, fulfilling and peaceful. The Bible says: A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity (Proverbs 17:17). So, a true friend would stick by you no matter the situation or what you do.
However, I have said that you can only attract who you are. So, you must be the friend you seek, to be attracted to the kind of friends you want. Remember, a man that has friends must first show himself friendly (Proverb 18:24). That is, your good intentions for others will bring those with good intentions your way.
However, in continuation of the rules to consider when choosing a friend, let’s look at the following:
Make friends with those with similar goals: If your goals and objectives in life and about life does not tally with that of your said “friend”, you both would not be making impacts on your lives. The Bible states clearly: Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend (Proverbs 27:17). So, the essence of your friendship should be to sharpen each other, which would be almost impossible if you are not headed the same direction.
Seek godly friends: Your need for godly counsels and confidants around you cannot be over emphasised. Remember the story of Amnon. While his friend helped him perfect his wrong intentions, he died as a result. Ironically, it was his friend that carried the news of his death (2 Samuel 13:2-15; 32). So, if your friends are not godly or you cannot vouch for their salvation of soul, you have to withdraw now, before you are entangles with strange habits and behaviours.
Seek friends at various levels: You have often heard that no man is an island; you will always need people, just as they would always need you. So, you need to consider friends that are above where you are right now, such as your superiors at work, school and elderly ones. This set of people would serve as mentors to you, helping you with experiences and advice that would guide again you making mistakes.
You also need friend that are at the same level with you. People of great minds, with whom you can share ideas with. They inspire you to be better and keep you in touch with the now. However, with friends “below” your level, the circle is incomplete. This is because you also need to teach and mentor others on what you have learnt over time. Also, you would need what they know to excel.
Their lifestyle must reflect where you are going: Having a friend is like going on a road trip, if you enter the wrong vehicle, you would get lost, but if you go with the right vehicle on the right track, you will arrive at your destination safely and in time. Similarly, if the lifestyle of your said “friends” do not reflect who you claim to be, you would be lost in the crowd. So, make sure you choose wisely to avoid regrets in the future.
However, knowing and acting on these principles would be most effective if you are born-again. It takes grace to choose the right company and that grace is only available in Jesus. To be born again, you need to accept Jesus as your Lord and saviour.
To accept Him right now, please say this prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! You are now born-again and a child of God. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; Or 07026385437 and 08141320204.
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