PLANNING FOR MARRIAGE (1)
It is another great month; I thank God for the privilege to bring His Word your way again. Last month, we started a teaching on purposeful courtship and I hope you have been putting to work all that you learnt. Today, we shall be looking at “Planning for Marriage”
A good marriage requires good planning, just as inadequate or lack of planning in the building of a physical house affects the building at a later date, the same way lack of adequate planning can affect the anticipated home. The Bible says: For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? (Luke 14:28). God is a Master Planner, He made the water before He created the fishes, and He made the earth before He made man. Can you imagine what would have happened if the fishes were made before the water? Hence, the courtship period is the most appropriate time to plan for a successful marriage. According to a popular saying, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”
So many issues call for planning, let me show you these few among others:
By location, I mean ‘where to live’. After the wedding what happens? Is one of the parties going to move to where the other is or are they both going to move to a new location? You find so many people who have not planned what to do about this issue, living as unmarried after marriage. Some starts planning after the marriage, making it difficult to reach a consensus.
This is another important issue that must be considered in planning for marriage. Issues concerning goals and plans for the future should be clear to each other; it should not be after marriage before your partner begins to discover what your vision for life is. When both parties have this knowledge, they can decide whether they can walk together. The Bible says: Can two walk together, except they be agreed (Amos 3:3). When we talk about vision, we do not mean the type received necessarily when asleep or in a trance. Vision is an unfolding of God’s plan as it concerns the individual. Everyone must come to discover what God has for his/her future and how to arrive at that destination. You can ask God for a vision, and then open your spiritual eyes to locate one (Mathew 7:7).
Number of Children
While planning for marriage, when you bring your reasons together, it becomes easy to arrive at a conclusion. For instance, there are cases whereby after marriage, one of the parties wants to have as many children as possible while the other does not. Such things can cause misunderstanding, but it can easily be avoided through careful planning.
Financial matters should be discussed and settled while planning for marriage. It is always safer to arrive at a conclusion on whether separate accounts or a joint account will be kept after marriage. Finance is a sensitive issue that causes problems in some homes and one way to avoid this is to arrive at a conclusion on how to do it before marriage. Remember, a good home does not drop from heaven; it is built. You must sit down and plan for that glorious marriage you so desire.
A glorious marriage begins with Jesus in your life. If you will like to receive Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today”.
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ name! Call or write and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, and email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Singles With A Difference, Make Your Life Count and Welcome to God’s Family.
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