Welcome to God’s presence in this column. In this edition, we will be rounding off by considering the last assignment of womanhood, which I caption – Being A Builder!”
A builder is someone who does/manage the process of erecting/constructing by putting materials together systematically to form a complete and functional whole. He/she also establishes and sets up something, according to specifications and prescribed requirements.
What is the building that is being referred to here? It is the home! The home is one of the divine assignments given to a woman to build. For you, as a builder, to erect a building that will last and excel, God must be involved. That’s why He said in His Word in Hebrews 3:4: Every house is builded by some man; but he that built all things is God. God has made available and set in motion all that is required for you to build your home successfully.
As a builder, you build a successful home by jointly venturing with God. This simply means, being in relationship with God. The vibrancy of your relationship with God, determines the vibrancy of your relationship with men, especially your family members, in building your home.
So, how does your relationship with God help you to build your home successfully? Remember that your relationships mould your life and destiny. Therefore, whoever you keep company with is who you will become like. This is why you need God’s wisdom for discretion to know how to handle and relate with everyone in your family. Through God’s wisdom, His nature rubs off on you; you are injected with His personality. God loves sacrificially and unconditionally; so loving your family members in the same way becomes a way of life for you. He supplies His unfailing help and grace, which you need, to build a godly home.
Just like building in the natural, as a builder, in building a successful home, two factors are very crucial:
The only sure foundation upon which you can successfully build a godly home is the rock of the Word of God. Anything else apart from the Word is mere sand, and no successful foundation can be built on sand. There can be no successful home without strict adherence to the dictates of God’s Word as it relates to marriage and family life. Psalms 11:3 says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?“
The right kind of materials to build a structure that can stand the test of time is Knowledge. God’s Word says: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is strong; yea, a man of knowledge increaseth strength (Proverbs 24:3-4).
To deliver this divine assignment successfully, as a woman, what do you need to know? You should know that nothing in life is maintenance-free, marriage inclusive. So, work at making it work! You also need to know how to confront in love (without rejecting) when things are going wrong. Speak the truth in love always, watching your timing, tone of voice and motives. God’s Word says: Love without truth is hypocrisy, but truth without love is brutality! (Ephesians 4:15).
Take time to contribute to making your children and husband who they are− their temperaments, their strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, hopes, fears, vision for life etc. Also, make yourself available to know what sets them off negatively, and what makes them react in the best way. Above all, take time to study them. When you understand your family members, you will react differently when there is impending crisis.
Are you born again? Do you need the Builder of all things (God) to build your family? Why not give your life to Him today, and you shall be born again. You can say this prayer of faith and you shall be born again: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).