I welcome you once again to a great time with God this month. Your heart’s desires will not be denied you. As you read through this piece, it will turn to you for a testimony in Jesus’ name!
This month, I will be sharing with you on what I titled: Marriage is Trust.
One of the worst things any man or woman can do is to betray the trust that their spouse has in them. A major platform upon which any marriage thrives is trust; in fact, marriage is trust. We trust that person enough to say that we want to spend the rest of our lives with him/her; marriage all begins with the trust that we have for that person. That is what makes us confident in the lifelong journey we embark on. I always like to say that a marriage without trust is a marriage that is doomed.
Trust is so vital that when it is broken, it has the power to tear a home apart for good, except for the help of God. When trust is violated, everything about the one who has been hurt is damaged. That is why we must not be careless about the trust we share in our marriages.
A few important points to note about trust are that:
1. It is a growing force – It is built over time. The trust you have for your spouse grew from the day you met, and is expected to keep growing, even in the marriage. As higher dimension of challenges may come in the marriage, you must be able to trust that your spouse will stand by you.
2. Trust means protection and you must protect that trust with all that you are – It means that despite the shortcomings and weaknesses of your spouse, he/she will protect you and keep private matters, private. It means that whatever mistakes you may have made, remain with him/her and vice versa.
It also means that you will not be found using any information you have to attack each other. There are things that you know about your spouse or things that they tell you that must of necessity, remain in your heart.
3. Trust is a major ingredient for the marriage to thrive.
4. Trust is built on proofs – It must be proven. It is based on dependable and predictable behaviour. It is being able to rely on a person and on their character that they have proven over time. Your “Yes” must be “Yes” and your “No”, “No”. You must be where you say you will be, and you must be found doing what you said you will do. You must prove yourself trustworthy.
5. Trust is restored or enhanced by measurable change or growth – If you have broken the trust for any reason, there must be a change for the trust to be restored. If your spouse does not see change, it becomes difficult for that trust to be restored. Your spouse must be able to see that you are doing your best to ‘right the wrongs’ you may have caused. It must be evident that you are taking steps to rebuild the trust in your marriage.
Marriage is a spiritual house and it cannot flourish in the energy of the flesh. Therefore, rely on God’s Spirit to revive your testimony (Zechariah 4:8). Go through the Word of God, and seek godly counsel if necessary, and God will take your marriage and family back to His intentions, from the beginning.
Trust can only be restored or enhanced, when you confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born-again.”
Congratulations! Till I come your way next time, please call or write to share your testimonies with me firstname.lastname@example.org and email@example.com, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437. You can connect with me on my facebook page which is called Crisis-Proof Your Family!
For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, Understanding Motherhood and Make Your Life Count.
You are blessed forever!