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Dear Reader,

Greetings in the precious Name of our Lord, Jesus Christ. You are specially welcome to God’s presence in Jesus’ name.  Last time, I taught on how to create an atmosphere of praise and excitement in your home.  Today, I will focus on the subject of happiness.

I want you to know that it is the joy on the inside that brings out the best in a man.  Happiness in your home will bring out the best in your wife, husband and children.  A sorrowful heart is dangerous and nothing good comes the way of the dejected.  Therefore, beware!

When there is no happiness in a home, the family members are prone to all sorts of sicknesses and disease.  Man, which do you choose: To stay happy and make every member of your family happy, thereby staying away from hospital bills, or to continue spending your money and resources on drugs and medical bills?  The Word of God says: A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones (Proverbs 17:22).  Wisdom is profitable to direct.  A wise man said, “I’ll rather choose to stay happy and be drug-free.”

What is Happiness?

It is a state of enjoyment, showing satisfaction or joy.  It is also marked by pleasure. When you are happy, in most cases, joy surges from within you and your disposition is characterized by laughter, which is a feeling of triumphant or exultant sense of well-being.  When you are genuinely happy, no one needs to ask; you just flow in it, and it shows.  The Bible says:  The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity, but a wounded spirit who can bear? (Proverbs 18:14).

What does it take to be Happy?

Happiness comes by exhibiting the fear of God, reverencing His voice via His Word and obeying His instructions/commandments. The Word of God says: Blessed is every one that feareth the Lord; that walketh in his ways.  For thou shall eat the labour of thine hands; happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with the (Psalms 128:1-2).  Also, Proverbs 28:14 says:  Happy is the man that feareth always; but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.

To maximize happiness in our homes, therefore, we need to consider the following:

  1. Appreciate the good in your spouse and family members, and then the bad will depreciate. Let whatever good thing and strong point you see in the life of your spouse, be a source of happiness and inspiration to you. Praise God for this aspect of his/her life, then, every other area where he/she does not measure up will become unnoticed.
  2. Celebrate your spouse: Remember that other people secretly wish for this same man or woman to be their husband or wife. That is why you must keep that which you have jealously and magnify your spouse in the face of the devil.
  3. Sow Joy: Remember that it is what you sow that you reap.  If you sow excitement into the atmosphere in your home, you will reap joyful family members.  You also will be happy and your home shall be full of joy.
  4. Adapt to your spouse: Like what your spouse likes.  Know his/her tastes and flow along with him/her and, you will experience happiness.
  5. Maintain body contact always: This does not necessarily mean sex. You can hug each other, give little kisses or give your spouse a pat of encouragement.  Don’t be ashamed to hold your spouse especially in public. Be free with him/her; not of necessity, but as a lifestyle.
  6. Create a ‘God-climate’ around your home: A God-climate will eventually produce good climate.  Fill your home with Christian music, Christian books, inspirational materials, posters, etc.  Let everything around your home depict God.
  7. Organise Feasts: Make big events out of ordinary days and learn to celebrate important days and events. Make it a habit to remember birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc and use these occasions to get excited and rejoice with your family members. You don’t have to invite people; just celebrate the occasion in the company of your wife and children and, with whatever you have.
  8. Be One: Engage in different activities with your spouse. Pray together and do things in unity. Let your children see oneness in you. Remember that a house divided against itself cannot stand.  Communicate and know your spouse to be able to vouch for him/her when not there.
  9. Give no place to the spirit of unforgiveness: If you don’t forgive, you will not be forgiven.  If you don’t make others happy, you also will not be happy.  If your wife or husband offends, correct immediately in love, and forgive.  Also, forget the offence and you will experience happiness.
  10. Be contented: Contentment brings satisfaction.  If you are not contented, you cannot be happy.  Be satisfied with your husband, wife, children, finances, life and environment.  Praise God, and you’ll be happy.

Finally friend, the Word Says: If you know these things, happy are you if ye do them (John 13:17).  God needed a garden in Genesis and He planted one.  If you want happiness, you must create it.  Nothing works until you work it.  You cannot be happy without having hope.  Nothing destroys laughter than hopelessness.  Never lose your hope for a moment.  Set yourself to do these things and your laughter shall know no end.  For the remaining part of this year, slap the face of the devil with your laughter.  Be happy on the inside and it shall continually show on the outside.  Your health shall spring forth and every member of your family will enjoy the divine presence of God.  Heaven is full of joy and God dwells in the midst of praise.  Make your home and life a habitation for the Almighty God.

If you are not born again, you don’t know what it takes to be happy. You will only experience the type of happiness that the world experience, which does not last and is only for a moment.  For you to enjoy the happiness that last, you need to embrace the Source of that happiness—JESUS!  Are you ready to surrender your life to Him as your Lord and Saviour?  You can say this prayer of faith and you shall be born again: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).



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