Love is actually the price any husband has to pay if he wants to lead a wife who is fulfilled and if he really wants to enjoy his family life. The kind of love God expects of a husband doesn’t need any reason. Don’t be fond of having reasons why your wife is unlovable. As long as she is your wife, any reason for not showing her love is not acceptable to God. Men who constantly give excuses as to why they simply can’t love their wives don’t really understand what love is. The truth is that you can’t claim to love God yet your wife doesn’t feel loved and cared for; that’s out of order.
For if a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? (1 John 4:20).
In fact, I believe that people should be able to know that you love God just by how you treat your wife. No one will have to vouch that you truly love God because it’ll be seen clearly.
Don’t be irritated by her flaws and shortcomings; and don’t expose her weaknesses. Instead, do your part to provoke the change you want to see in her. Love helps. Help her become a better person. Usually, we are more eager to help those outside our home. A man will be ever willing to assist someone in need; sometimes a woman will even inconvenience herself just to lend a helping hand. Those same individuals get frustrated and annoyed when it’s time to help their own; that’s out of order. As a husband, any love that is shown should be felt most at home. Your wife may have some undesirable traits (don’t we all?) but don’t hold it against her and don’t compare her to others.
Dr. David Oyedepo said even if he were married to the devil, the amount of love he’d express to her must make her change. That’s a man who knows his responsibility! The love charge is for all of us as Christians but there is a reason why the husband is specifically given this critical instruction (Ephesians 5:25-33). By God’s grace, you have everything in you to ensure she becomes all that God has created her to be. It may seem tough but it’s do-able. Don’t focus on what her own responsibilities are, focus on your own. Take the lead in taking responsibility and she’ll follow your lead by submitting as instructed (Ephesians 5:23).
Your attitude should always be, by God’s grace, I can do it & I will do it. Love her God’s way and pray for her. Anyone you are genuinely praying for, you can easily love. Look at her through God’s eyes (the same way God looks at you), and treat her accordingly. So stop looking for the reasons why you can’t love her; stop justifying your behavior with seemingly good reasons. When it comes to expressing God’s love to her, you don’t need a reason. If you are genuine in your approach, it’ll only be a matter of time before she becomes and remains an excellent wife that will be like a crown on your head, shinning brightly to the glory of God (Proverbs 12:4).
You must have Christ in your life if you must take the lead in taking your own responsibility(ies). This simply means that you must be born again and you can only do so by having a personal relationship with Him. You can do this by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”
Congratulations! I am so excited for you and look forward to your testimonies. Till I come your way next time, please call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org and email@example.com, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437. You can connect with me on my Facebook page, called Crisis-Proof Your Family, and my blog – www.crisisproofyourfamilyblog.com !
For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Single with a Difference, Building a Successful Family, Making Marriage Work and Marriage Covenant.
Remain ever blessed!