It is a good thing to be with you today. The last time, I taught that marriage vows should not be compromised under any guise.
Today, as I conclude this teaching, I will be showing you Ways Of Keeping Marriage Vows!
To effectively keep your marriage vows, there are some things to bear in mind, which must be continuously done. They include:
a) Love: This is the priority! Love, here, is not optional, but mandatory. God’s Word says: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25). This commandment from God is not an admonition or suggestion, but an instruction; after all, while taking your marriage vows, you willingly said before all witnesses that you would love her. Until you love each other as Christ loves His church, you are not walking in agreement with your marriage vows.
This love can generally be expressed in thoughts: you must both learn, beginning from the thoughts of your hearts, to love each other (Matthew 12:34) in words: saying, “I love you” over and again. This spices up the marriage. You should also prove your love in your actions by lending a helping hand and being available. These make a lot of difference in relationships.
b) Exchange of Gifts: An example of this is seen in the covenant between God and Abraham. God asked Abraham for Isaac, and Abraham did not hesitate, neither did he bother about what Sarah would say, nor about Isaac’s opinion. He knew he was in a covenant relationship with God and He didn’t want to break it. He was willing to offer Isaac as a sacrifice to God (Genesis 22).
When a man is truly in a marriage vow with a woman, there is nothing he cannot give to her, and vice versa. As a matter of fact, he or she should not need to ask for a thing; the partner should always look for ways of blessing his or her spouse. Just like there is nothing my husband and I cannot give to each other, because we both understand that it’s a tool for keeping our marriage vows.
c) Agreement: Both the husband and wife must always be in agreement on every issue, as it is a way to keep the marriage vow made to each other intact and going. God’s Word says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30). Something similar is also found in Matthew 18:19, all pointing to the fact that agreement between husband and wife is a major tool for the success of their marriage. This is the mystery behind every blossoming marriage you may have seen or heard of, mine inclusive (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
d) Honesty and Openness: It is dishonesty that makes a man chase after other women outside the marriage; such person has neglected the marriage vow he made to his loving wife. Without honesty and openness between couples, trust is undermined and the feelings of security can eventually be destroyed. They cannot trust the signals that are being sent, and feel they have no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Therefore, instead of adjusting, they feel off balance; instead of growing together, they feel as if they are growing apart, causing the marriage vow to be at stake. That shall not be you!
e) Effective Communication: A wise man said, “If you talk together, you stay together.” I believe it is very true. You know, marriage is about living together. Lack of this understanding is the reason for so much tension in the home. Many marriage vows are trampled on as a result of faulty communication. Communication is verbal when it involves the use of words, while non-verbal communication involves the use of actions, facial expressions, body language, letters, etc. Both of these kinds of communication are essential in keeping the marriage vow going. Refuse to bottle anything in your mind; rather, make sure that whatever needs to be sorted out is done with wisdom the same day (Ephesians 4:26-27).
To effectively keep your marriage vows till death do you part, being born again is the only and sure foundation. To get born again, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to be born again, say this prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).