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Dear Reader,

I hope this month has been wonderful for you, just as God has ordained. Your testimonies this season will not elude you in the name of Jesus. We have been looking at the topic Handling Peer Pressure, and surely, you have learnt that friendship is by choice, so you must choose wisely those you mingle with.

In this edition, we shall be looking at steps to adopt so we don’t feel pressured by anyone. In as much as our decisions at times can be influenced by people, we are not supposed to feel uneasy about following those influences. When you are uncomfortable with their ideas, then you must check it, because there is something wrong.

The Bible says in Amos 3:3, “can two walk together except they be agreed.” That means, you cannot be comfortable with someone whose ideas and lifestyle you don’t agree with. One way to tell those you agree with, is to first determine and accept what you stand for. Without knowing what you want and stand for, anything would seem okay with you. But when you are cleared with your stance, then it is much easier to determine what fits in and what should be left out.

No matter how skilled you are at managing peer pressure, you can only control your own behaviour. Also, there are some situations where pressure from other people can get out of hand. That is why it is advisable for young people to know where they are going and how to get there. Remember the Bible says that the labour of the foolish man wearieth them all, because he knows not how to get to the city (Ecclesiastics 10:15). So, it is not enough to know your purpose or vision, you must also know how to get there. When you know your purpose in life, then you can be sure of those you should get acquitted with, what to do per time, and influences to follow. The following steps will help you not to feel pressured by anyone:

  • Look out for and mingle with those of common interest: This could be those with similar skill and talent, people of the same religious beliefs, your fellowship members and those that reason the way you do. When you do this, you will feel less pressured to do what you don’t want to do and you will be motivated to forge ahead in your areas of interest. Therefore, in choosing a friend, you must seek out for those with like minds.
  • Feel good about yourself: Most times, people that are wrongly influenced by peer pressure are those that don’t feel comfortable with themselves. It might be because of their family background or financial status. When you don’t feel good about yourself, there is every tendency that you will want to please others to be accepted. So, no matter what goes on around you, you must appreciate who you are.
  • Don’t be afraid to say no: No matter who is involved, when an idea given is not right, you must be bold enough to reject it. You don’t lose anything by saying no; rather you gain more when you stand your grounds.
  • Respect other people’s choices: This will help them respect yours. Remember it is said that what goes around comes around. So, when you respect the decisions of others, they would learn to respect yours and not pressure you over theirs.
  • Be open to higher authorities: If you’re in a situation where you feel threatened, hurt, or pressured into something that you are really uncomfortable with, then you need to tell someone. Make sure that person is older, more experienced and would be able to help positively.

However, it is only those who are in Christ that can appropriately do His will and be guided by Him. That Means for you to walk in the light of what you have read, you need to receive Jesus into your life, as your Lord and Saviour.

To accept Him right now, please say this prayer: Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner.  I cannot help myself.  Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood.  Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God.  I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today.  Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God.  All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and counselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Singles with a Difference, A living Witness, Salvation a Way of Escape.



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