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With great joy and happiness, I bring God’s Word your way again this month. By the help of the Holy Spirit, I will be sharing with you the topic titled, God’s Standard For Locating A Marriage Partner.

The first principle, according to God’s own standard of locating a marriage partner, is to marry among God’s own people. Abraham understood this principle to the point that he gave his servant these strict orders: You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; but you shall go to my country and to my kindred, and take a wife for my son Isaac (Genesis15:3-4).

The Canaanites were notorious idolaters. Their gods and goddesses promoted worship that included human sacrifices, and fertility rites with perverse sex. Modern day Canaanites are not always so obviously pagan. They can appear religious in a positive sense, but being religious is not enough.

A personal relationship with Jesus, is the cornerstone of any successful marriage. There is no meeting point between a Christian and a sinner (2 Corinthians 6:14). This is primarily because there is a fundamental difference between the character and life of one who is saved, and one who is not saved. Even though the apostles Paul and Peter spoke of the possibility of winning an unbelieving spouse to the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:12-16; 1 Peter 3:1-2), that does not mean we should go into marriage, knowing we are spiritually incompatible. A believer who marries an unbeliever may be facing a lifetime of spiritual unrest in the marriage, and a battle for the spiritual well-being of their children. So, beware!


You may be wondering, “How Do I make The Move?”

The answer is to simply look in the appropriate place and ask the Lord for help. To find a compatible, spiritual wife, Abraham sent Eleazar to a logical place – his hometown (Genesis 24:3-4, 10). Eleazar didn’t go into a pagan Canaanite village to look for a wife for Isaac. Eleazar prayed about the marriage he was arranging (Genesis 24:12) and he saw the Lord lead. Nothing could have been more practical or wise.

Don’t base your decision on one “sign.” Even though you may believe the sign is from the Lord, don’t throw out wisdom. When Eleazar asked the Lord for a sign (a young woman who would offer water to him and his camels), he didn’t jump to the conclusion that Rebekah was the right one, when she offered water. The text tells us that even after she passed the initial test, Eleazar quietly observed her and wondered if she truly was the one who was right for Isaac (Genesis 24:21).

The most logical move you can make, is to put your searching heart into God’s hands. This is why it becomes necessary for you to allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. What the Holy Spirit does is to illuminate your spiritual eyes so that as soon as your physical eyes come in contact with someone, you will know whether such a person is the right person for you or not. If that person happens to be the right person, there will be a confirmation in your spirit. If that is not the right person, the Spirit of God in you will warn you to keep off.

Eleazar had observed Rebekah’s character, as she humbly brought water for him and his camels. When he talked with her, he knew that she was from the right family (Genesis 24: 24-27). Then, as he talked with her father and her brother, Eleazar received added confirmation when they were quick to give their approval. The final indication was Rebekah’s own declaration that she was willing to go (Genesis 24:58). The combination of all these factors helped to verify the choice.

The concept of marriage originated solely with God. Mankind had absolutely nothing to do with the institution of marriage, except for being a recipient of its manifold blessings. It was God who decided that it was not good for man to be alone, and made a help meet for him. After that, He (God) presided over the first ever wedding ceremony recorded in history. This is why God’s help is highly needed

You need God’s help to prepare you for marriage and to help select the person who will be best for you. He will enable you to select someone who will help you to fulfill God’s plan and purpose for your life. As Christians, we have to learn over and over, that we must wait on the Lord, the One who provides all we need. All you need to do is to come to God in prayer, with an open spirit. Be confident that He loves you; He knows your end from the beginning and wants the best for you.

Until you are a born-again child of God, He cannot lead you to make the right choice. To be born again entails confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer:

Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!


That’s it! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, counselling@faithoyedepo.org OR 07026385437, 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores:

  • Singles With A Difference,
  • Marriage Covenant,
  • Making Marriage Work and Success In Marriage.



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