I know singles especially will be delighted to read this wonderful edition. Some singles get into marriage without having a good foundation. I want you to know that marriage is a unique relationship ordained by God for a man and woman to give and receive satisfaction of their healthy needs, and desires. It is the oldest institution in the world having its root in divinity. That is, God Himself instituted it. This is clearly seen as written in Genesis 2:22, which says: …The Lord God … made … a woman, and brought her unto the man.
Anyone considering marriage is required to take some steps in locating a partner. There is a need for finding. In Proverbs 18:20, the Bible says: Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtain favour of the LORD. For something to be found, it has to be looked for. In other words, there must, of a necessity, be a seeking before a finding. Ask, and it shall be given you; SEEK, and ye shall FIND; Knock, and it shall be opened unto you: for everyone that asketh receiveth; and he that SEEKETH FINDETH; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened (Matthew 7:7-8). The underlying prerequisite for finding is seeking, which involves making a diligent search.
Let us consider some steps to take when finding a Marriage Partner
Have a desire.
The first step to getting a marriage partner is to sincerely desire one. What you don’t desire, you don’t deserve. Moreover, what you don’t desire may not find fulfilment. …The desire of the righteous shall be granted (Proverbs 10:24). Desires are primarily in the heart but, they find expression on the outside. This is why you must be honest with yourself. Admit your desire for a marriage partner privately and publicly without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. Admit it before God and man, and don’t pretend not to need one when you actually do. If an occasion arises for you to declare your stand on the issue, be bold about it. Marriage is honourable… (Hebrews 13:4a). So, your desire for a marriage partner is not carnal, but spiritual, if you follow God’s approach to it.
Locate the Word of God and apply it.
Having known that your desire for a marriage partner is not carnal, the next step is to locate God’s Word that matches your desire. God’s Word contains all things that make for life and godliness, including marriage. When the Bible forms the foundation of your steps, you can be sure of success, because the scripture is the only sure foundation. He that spared not his own son, but delivered him up for us all; how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? (Romans 8:32). I want you to know that it is God’s desire to freely give you all things, your desire for a marriage partner inclusive. However, you need to seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33). Keep serving God with joy, gladness and a pure heart of love, and when He finds you faithful, He will add a partner to you.
The next step to take after locating the appropriate Word is prayer. The Word of God says: Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in Him; and he shall bring it to pass (Psalms 37:5).
Choosing a life partner is crucial because it is a lifetime decision in which God’s intervention is highly needed. A major way of ensuring God’s involvement in a matter is by seeking His face in prayer. His Word says: Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not (Jeremiah 33:3). He knows what you don’t know and knows the end from the beginning. Come to Him in prayer with an open spirit. Be confident that He loves you, knows your end from the beginning and wants the best for you. This is why you must be specific in prayer. Tell God the kind of partner you want. Identify your God-given vision in life and ask God for a partner that will complement that vision …Everyone that asketh receiveth… (Matthew 7:8). If you ask in prayers, you will receive.
Some people express the fear that God may give them someone they do not want when they commit everything unreservedly into His hands, so they do not pray at all about it. This kind of thinking shows that the individuals concerned are not confident of God’s love for them. They see God as wicked and are not sure of His ability to be a Father to them. Look at this Scripture: If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? (Matthew 7:11). Just as no earthly parent will give a harmful thing to a child, God cannot give you anything that is harmful to your life. Remember that He is more loving than earthly parents. Be sure therefore that God will give you a partner after His own heart.
After you have asked in prayer according to the will of God, refuse to doubt; rather, be confident that you have received an answer to your petition. And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: (I John 5:14).
Having taken the above steps, the next step is to water your prayer with thanksgiving. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you (I Thessalonians 5:18). Let your faith be intact and make positive confessions. Give thanks always if you believe that God heard your prayers. After giving God thanks, then apply patience and before long, you will see the manifestation of your desired marriage partner.
Do you want to allow God to come into your life today, so you can have a relationship with Him? You can say this prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Single with a Difference, A Living Witness and Make Your Life Count.