I welcome you to a refreshing time in God’s presence. This month, I will be teaching on the Foundation for an Enviable Marriage.
God’s Word says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalms 11:3). It is important for you to know that marriage is not a promise, but a covenant relationship. An enviable Christian marriage is neither a promise from God, nor does it come by wishing.
As we all know, a marriage covenant involves two parties: God on one hand and a man (and his wife) on the other. God is the Initiator of the covenant and His terms of agreement are sealed up in His Word. Man, on his part, is required to obey God’s terms of the agreement.
God instituted marriage and family life. He made the terms and limits of the marriage covenant available to us, through His Word in the Bible. Thus, you can enjoy an exciting marriage, if only you understand the terms of the marriage covenant, and live within the limits of the covenant.
God’s Word says: God upholds all things by the Word of His power (Hebrews 1:3). ‘All things’ here include marriage and family life. This Scripture clearly reveals to us that God’s Word is power.
If you want God to uphold your marriage so as not to crumble, if your marriage must succeed and become outstanding, you need the power in the Word of God. This is because all things are upheld by it. You can’t put God and His Word aside, and expect to have an enviable marriage. The foundation for this is following what God says about marriage and doing it.
Man’s hardness of heart towards God’s instructions has been a major reason for marital and family failure, the world over. The Lord Jesus said … But from the beginning it was not so…
God’s design for marriage and family life in the beginning was set towards fruitfulness and multiplication; it wasn’t designed for failure, heartaches or sorrow. Even now, you don’t have to suffer marriage failure. In fact, you can experience a great married life, if you open up to God’s Wisdom.
The foundation for an enviable marriage is God. However, there’s a fundamental pathway to enjoying God’s best in marriage, and it is what I termed, “Obedience!”
God always fulfils His own side of the marriage covenant. The man and his wife who are the second party in the marriage covenant are the variables. They must be ready to obey the terms of the agreement as stated in God’s Word, so they can reap the rewards that go with obedience.
Disobedience to God is the beginning of a bad marriage. The disobedience of man (and his wife) to the terms of the covenant as stated in God’s Word, is usually the cause of many marital sorrows, problems, frustration and eventual divorce.
The reason for many people’s divorce situation is their hardness of heart. My husband says, “You need a heart to make a mark”, and if I may add, “You need a right heart to make a right mark in your family life.” The man and his wife have to fulfil their own part of the covenant, if they are to enjoy the best that marriage has to offer.
However, to enjoy fulfilment in the marriage covenant, co-operation between the husband and wife is a major requirement. Whenever the man does not co-operate with the woman or the woman does not co-operate with the man, fulfilment remains a dream that can never be realized.
The responsibility of the man is to govern the home and cater for the needs of his family (this includes spiritual, physical and material needs) as established in Ephesians 5:23 and 1 Timothy 5:8. The woman’s role in the covenant is to submit to her husband as seen in Ephesians 5:22.
In essence, if a man and his wife are to enjoy an enviable marriage, then they must adhere to the terms of the marriage covenant. Many people, even Christians want to enjoy a good marriage but are not ready to be obedient to the terms of the covenant.
Outside of obedience, the fruit of a successful marriage cannot be obtained. An enviable marriage and family is, therefore, the fruit of obedience. A good and fulfilled marriage is possible, but only those who are ready to obey the terms of the agreement can have access to this unique fruit.
Obedience to God’s Word is the secured path to a glorious marriage. I see that grace for obedience released for you now in Jesus’ name.
However, to obey God and His Word, you need Jesus Christ in your life. You will do this by confessing your sins and accepting Him as your Lord and Saviour. Are you ready for this new birth experience? If you are ready, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).