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Foundation for an Enviable Marriage (2)

Dear Reader,

You are welcome to another exciting time in God’s presence. I know by now you are already swimming in God’s grace to be obedient to His Word for an enviable marriage. My prayer is that, God will make your family a wonder to behold in Jesus’ name.

Today, I would like to draw your attention to some Characteristics of an Enviable Marriage.  Remember God’s Word says: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches (Proverbs 24:3-4).  So, if you want your marriage to be desired by other individuals and homes, then understanding of these characteristics is a must!

The following are some characteristics of an enviable marriage, but are not limited to:

Commitment to Your Spouse:

Marriage is a lifetime and total commitment, an unreserved dedication of one’s whole self to the marriage relationship.  Commitment is the backbone of an enviable and successful marriage.  It is the adhesive that holds marriage together.  When commitment is lacking in a marriage, the chances of survival of that marriage is very slim.  It is important for you to know that what the spinal cord is to the body, is what commitment is to marriage; without it, the marriage is paralyzed.  That shall not be your portion in Jesus’ name.

Effective Communication with Your Spouse:

Effective communication with your spouse is a major characteristic of a fulfilled marriage.  Many marriages break down as a result of faulty communication.  It is not just communicating, but to communicate effectively is what makes an enviable marriage.  Lack of effective communication is the reason for so much tension in many homes today.  Effective communication can be said to be the “mortar” that cements marital relationship.  In essence, effective communication is the key to a desirable and fulfilling marriage.

Absolute Trust in Your Spouse:

Trust is placing confidence in someone.  Trust is a part of our daily life.  That is why lack of trust in a marriage brings death to that marriage.  To enjoy a fulfilled marriage, trust is a vital tool.  Trust is a virtue built through experience and over a period of time.  Trust is reciprocal.  The more you express your trust to your spouse, the more he/she responds to you in trust.

So far, we have taken time together to look at the Word of God, as it relates to birthing an enviable marriage.  Among other things, we have discussed that God has made available the tools needed to make this a reality in His Word (Psalms 119:105).

As I round off this teaching, I will be unveiling to you Satan’s Interest in the Home, so as to be alert to stand against them when they try to surface.  This is of utmost importance because every successful marriage is a threat to satan’s kingdom; that’s why he would do anything to destroy it.

Unfortunately, people attribute the crises in marriages to incompatibility or disagreements, but it’s actually satan who is behind these woes.  He has determined to cause havoc in marriages and would do anything or pay any price to shatter homes.

Quite a number, even in the Church, are victims of this satanic onslaught against marriages. As a result of this, some wish they were never married, yet God says, “I created it for your good.”  Thus, to counteract the activity of satan in marriages, Jesus’ first miracle was at a wedding ceremony in Cana of Galilee (John 2), whereas the first thing satan did was to destroy a family.

God’s Word says: The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly (John 10:10).  Satan’s mission of stealing, killing and destroying is first targeted at marriages.

Until you decide to say, “Get thee behind my marriage satan”, he will keep hanging around. Let me expose two important reasons why satan wants your marriage:

The first is to stop you from destroying his kingdom.  God’s Word says:  How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30).  Satan is aware of this truth of God’s Word, so he launches attack on marriages, to prevent them from being united, let alone destroying his kingdom.

The second is to hinder your prayer.  When a man and his wife are at variance with each other, their prayers are hindered, and they are disconnected from God (1 Peter 3:7).  The man who opens up his home to malice or discord has blocked his access to God’s blessing.  Satan knows this, so he does all he can to see that there is rancour and strife between a man and his wife.

Tell yourself that since you have no intention of entering into another marriage, you will not give satan a foothold in your home.  This decision can only be guaranteed for a life in Christ.

Are you born again? If you are not and would like to become one now, please say this prayer and you would be born again: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).



  • Vera 26-03-2016

    To God alone be The Glory

  • Gwe Olivia Neakb 17-02-2016

    Hallelujah! Thanks, mama.

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