You are welcome to December, the Christmas month. It’s a time of the year, when we look forward to celebrating the birth of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. It is the month to recount God’s goodness, His mercy, and all His wonderful blessings since the year began. It is the festive period of the year, when we must enjoy together as a family. This month, we shall be looking at a very vital topic, Filling The Cracks.
When there are cracks in the walls of a house, lizards hide there comfortably. Marriage, like I always say, is like a house and the lizards of life can be likened to the devil and his agents. Any crack you allow is an open invitation to the devil to have access to your home. The Word of God says: Neither give place to the devil (Ephesians 4:27).
Commitment is fundamental to success in family life. Where there is no commitment, there will be no trust and distrust leads to cracks in the marriage. Cracks left unfilled become gullies, and with the effect of erosion, gullies become canyons! In other words, any crack you leave unattended to, will with time deteriorate until divorce becomes inevitable.
Watch that Unforgiveness!
Unforgiveness is one major crack in the wall of many families today. It causes couples to hold on to issues, offences, misunderstandings and various hurts of the past, and before long there is a very wide rift that tears the family apart.
I liken unforgiveness in families to cancer. I call it family cancer. Just as cancer eats up the body, many families have been eaten up and torn apart by unforgiveness. Hebrews 12:15 says: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled. Don’t give room to bitterness and unforgiveness. Learn to instantly forgive each other. In fact, you can go a step further by learning to forgive, even before offences are committed.
One interesting thing about anger and bitterness is that it is you who suffer its consequences, not the person you are angry with. In fact, it is a medical fact that when you are angry, bitter or live in unforgiveness, your body system is set at an imbalance which ultimately destroys your health.
A researcher is quoted as saying that “One minute of depression suppresses your immune system by six hours, whereas one minute of laughter boosts your immune system by twenty-four hours.” So, take heed to God’s Word and learn to destroy every root of bitterness and offence before it gets a chance to destroy you.
Taking Forgiveness Too Far
Let me state here that when we are talking about forgiveness, wisdom demands that you don’t endanger your life in the name of forgiveness. In cases where the man has been abusive and the woman is being threatened with death, and he has in fact actually made attempts at ending her life, she must apply wisdom here. If you are in such a situation, flee for your life!
But where your life is not endangered, though it is an abusive relationship, seek counsel from born-again, Spirit-filled marriage counsellors. You will be preserved in Jesus’ name!
You cannot forgive in the energy of the flesh; you need to surrender your life to Christ. This entails confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).