I welcome you to this wonderful time in God’s presence! I shared with you last week on the foundation for a faulty marriage and the causes of a bad marriage. This week, I will be sharing on the consequences of unsuccessful marriage.
It Hinders Prayer
Prayer is simply a communication with God and when your communication with God is hindered, your access to God’s hotline is denied. The Word of God says: Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (I Peter 3:7). As a Christian, you need to commune with God in order to have a smooth relationship with Him. However, when you and your spouse are in disharmony, your relationship with them is not only affected, but your relationship with God as well.
Remember that God’s eyes run to and fro the earth. When you are fighting with your spouse, after which you go to church to pray and fellowship, remember that God is not mocked; He cannot be deceived. You need to settle your relationship with your spouse so that your communication line with God will not be blocked.
Your Christian Testimony is affected
When a Christian marriage fails, it gives unbelievers room to blaspheme the name of God. The Word of God says: For the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles through you… (Romans 2:24). When your unbelieving neighbours hear you and your wife fighting and quarreling everyday, calling your children all manner of ungodly names, or your children are typical examples of what the Bible refers to as “unruly”, your Christian testimony is actually affected. How will you witness to them or invite them to church, when they are aware of the situation in your home? You let people around emulate your family.
As a man, don’t shy away from your covenant responsibilities in the home – such as the provision of basic necessities of life. If you fail in your responsibility, the unbelievers around you will find it difficult to accept your Christian testimony. If a man travels out of town just at the point when his wife is about to put to bed or his children are about to resume at school, making no provisions whatsoever for them, this implies lack of responsibility which brings about negative testimony.
Your Giving Brings no Reward
This is the reason why a lot of Christians give so much, yet receive so little! They quarrel and fight at home, and then bring their gift to the altar and expect it to be accepted by God. The Word of God says: Therefore there your gift before the altar, and go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Leave there your gift before the altar, and go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and the n come and offer your gift (Matthew 5:23-24). It is important for you to know that giving is a futile exercise until there is sanctity in the home. God is not in need; even if He were, no human being is qualified to meet His needs. We all depend on Him for sustenance. This is the reason why we must maintain peace and harmony in the home, so as to enjoy the blessings of God. You shall enjoy the blessings of God in your home in Jesus’ name.
The Future of your Children is affected
Family disharmony greatly affects the future of the children in such homes. This is primarily because for a child, “an ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching”, says a wise man. Whenever you quarrel and fight, your children take note of it. One day, they will ask whether you are genuinely born-again. On the other hand, you must also realize that whatever your marriage looks like could be duplicated in their homes in the future. Children at the end of the day look like their parents. Will you want your children to do what you are doing now? That’s a food for thought!
Can you boldly ask your children to follow you as you follow God? Wouldn’t they miss heaven if they were to follow your example? Don’t let your lack of commitment to the success of your home become a hindrance to your children in the future. Those children may be small now, but they are the future generation. May you leave a Christian legacy for your children; may they remember you for good!
To avoid the evil of a bad marriage, you need to give your life to Christ. Therefore, if you are not born again and want to be, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).