Welcome to the second part of this explicit teaching from the Word of God. I said in the last segment that it takes cultivating right character to build a fulfilled marriage. Your character can shape your destiny, and is an important tool in your quest for a successful home. A man who cannot cultivate a successful character is bound to fail in life.
Today, another important aspect of a man’s character is “The Words of Your Mouth.” If you ever dream of building a sweet home, Your Words must correspond with the Word of God. The Scripture says: A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled (Proverb 18:20).
The words of our mouth can lead to satisfaction and increase if they are right words. Your word cannot be separated from your personality, both are irrevocably tied together. They will invariably, reveal the type of person you are. If you want a stable home you must watch what you say, where you say it and to whom you say it. You must tame your tongue to speak only when it is necessary.
Parents who desire a good family must ensure that no corrupt words proceed out of their mouths. Careless words must never be uttered, because such words have negative effects. There was a story I once heard. Whether fact or fiction, I cannot tell. However, the story had it that someone called his son “crazy”, and to his amazement the child began to act strangely. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof (Proverb 18:21).
This verse simply means whether you live or die is determined by the words of your mouth. Your home can be a heaven on earth by speaking the right words. We must be careful to speak only those things that will ensure peace in our lives and our homes. Speak positive words at all times. Speak words that will glorify Jesus, and encourage family members and it will be easy for your home to enjoy success and stability.
Today many people, including children of God, need to learn how to make their words correspond to what the Bible says. The tongue, as small as it is, is like the steering wheel of a car. It either directs the entire car safely to its destination or it steers the car off the road. The words of your mouth either build your home or tear it apart. A wrong word is like a car that has lost control, while a right word is like taking that car to its destination safely. If you talk dirty, you will have a dirty life. Speak the right words and you will automatically live right. Your tongue is a fruit yielding member of your body. Never misuse it.
If you take time to study people who have seen reaping the reward of a sweet home, you will discover that all of them learnt how to speak right words. It is what a man sows that he shall reap. Whatever you say today is a seed that will germinate tomorrow. My husband often says “What you can’t say, you can’t become.”
Tame your tongue and begin to speak right words. Your words are important both to God and to men. Do not be careless in words before God and man. Murmuring and complaining, for instance, can stop the flow of God’s blessings into your home. It is dangerous (Acts 7:22). This explains why the Scripture says: For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body (James 3:2).
I want to encourage you to watch what you say. Begin to speak words of encouragement to your family and watch the transforming effect it will have on you and your home.
What would constitute a perfect marriage is a perfect tongue; the tongue that selects what it says and one which speaks the truth of God’s Word rather than the negative facts of life. The Bible says: What man (woman) is he (she) that desireth life, and loveth many days, that he may see good? Keep THY TONGUE from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile (Psalm 34:12&13).
God has promised to grant the desires of your heart whether negative or positive. So say only what you want to have. Instead of saying “this man can never change” The Bible says: ...He shall have whatsoever he saith (Mark 11:23).
Whatever good you desire to see in your family, speak it into being. When God desired heaven and earth to be created, He gave voice to His desire. So when you speak your desire, you see it manifest in the physical. Positive words make for good friendship. Positive heart leads to right marriage. You shall never fail.
However, if you are not born-again, you don’t have genuine access to operate the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16). So say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Single with a Difference, A Living Witness and Make Your Life Count.