BECOMING A SUITABLE GODLY HELPMEET (2)
Peace and blessings to you, in Jesus name! I am convinced you enjoyed the first part of this series titled ‘Becoming a Suitable Godly Helpmeet’. Today, I will be teaching on ‘How to Balance Career with Motherhood as a Suitable Godly Helpmeet’. This piece will serve as an atlas for having a successful family life alongside a successful career for all the suitable godly helpmeets. Be attentive to ascertain areas that best suits your family and career life, at the end of this lesson you will experience a wanton leap for your family, in Jesus name!
Today, one of the challenges most women face is adequately balancing a career with their family. Oftentimes, pursuing a career and running the family can be such a hard nut to crack because all is lost to a cycle of work, squeezed opportunity to catch some sleep and rest, thereby running the risk of the family receiving less focus and attention. Once you experience the balance in your work, and your family life is improving; you will notice your overall level of satisfaction and happiness in marriage grow once again. A man works from sun up to sundown, but a woman’s work is never done. Work life balance is a challenge to be managed, similar to so many other challenges in marriage. Consequently, many has refused giving birth to children, caring for their husbands and children alike in a bid to set a standard that will enable their promotion at work. So much is given to work at the expense of the family. On the contrary, some women believe that being a full time house wife/stay home mum is cumbersome, that she can never make a living no matter how small.
HOW TO BALANCE CAREER WITH MOTHERHOOD AS A SUITABLE GODLY HELP-MEET
The following are ways you can balance career and motherhood as a suitable help-meet:
- Set A Routine.
Setting a plan and working with the plan is the stress-free way to balance career with motherhood. You can do this by allotting time to everything and determined to follow the plan through. This enables you to give adequate scheduling of activities and ensures productivity. However, to strike balance with motherhood and remain relevant at your place of work; you should be strategic with time management.
What Is Time Management?
Time management according to the dictionary is the ability to use time effectively, efficiently, productively and resourcefully. This will obviously look different for everyone, but establishing some sort of morning routine can help start the day out smoothly.
Tips For Time Management
- Set goals correctly
- Prioritize wisely
- Set a time limit
- Take breaks between tasks
- Delegate duties
- Remove non-essential task.
To avoid feeling stressed while getting ready for the day, try to do what you can the night before; such as, packing the children’s daycare bag, arranging their school uniforms and ironing over the night. However, doing this reduces the risk of being rushed and forgetting something or probably running late to work each day, more so you can adopt using household gadgets, like washing machines for your laundry, and cooking wares that saves time and conserves energy. This will enable you do house chores in a short time with little or no stress.
- Give Your Work And Family Equal Priority.
Women are created to be dynamic and flexible, however God made it so for her to maximise her motherly and wifely duties efficiently. In the light of this, in as much as the job pays the bills and puts food on the table, this is not enough reason to prioritise your work at the expense of your family. Devote time for the family as much as you put in work to pay the bills. Therefore, as a mother seek to balance motherhood with career so as to become the suitable godly help-meet God has created you to be. It has been a great privilege to be a mother, wife and pastor’s wife at the same time. To the glory of God, I have been in the scene since the inception of this ministry. As a matter of fact, my motherhood journey started from the cradle of the ministry, I was the first secretary of this Commission. Even as a mother, I was able to manage my Job, the ministry, my husband and my children both at home and in the church. I gave in my best at all times to ensure that there were no lapses whatsoever. On this note, irrespective of how demanding your job schedule is, to be able to fulfil the purpose God has brought you into this world for, to be a suitable help-meet for your spouse and a wonderful mother to your children, seek to accept your motherly and wifely roles efficiently.
- Enhance Communication With Your Spouse.
Balancing work and family life often comes down to a question of values and priorities. If you experience difficulties in your relationship resulting from work-life balance challenges, the first step should be speaking directly to your partner. Talk to your partner about the stress you are experiencing due to your current lifestyle and explore together what can be done to restore the balance.
Beginning the process of restoring balance in your life could start with negotiating and agreeing your shared priorities; having done that, agree on any changes that need to be made. This may result in a number of changes like having more realistic expectations of each other, making more time for each other, agreeing not to bring work home and perhaps even changing job. In many cases, work productivity can actually increase as the quality of marriage and family life improves. Seek to communicate with your spouse and ensure you both reach a compromise on scheduling of activities just as the Bible clearly states in Ecclesiastics 4:9, Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
- Evaluate Your Extra-Curricular Activities.
The Bible admonished in 1 Corinthians 6:12, All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Learn to say ‘no’ to some extra-curricular activities to create time for your family, you don’t need to turn up for every invitation or social opportunities because not all is relevant to you at all times, you can choose to send gifts and apolo
gise for not coming stating your obvious reasons. This can save you time and energy mostly during the weekends to rest and spend quality time with your family.
On the other hand, watch out for social occasions that will give you room to interact and spend time with your family, like get-together with family and friends, picnics, dinner at kid friendly restaurants and other kid friendly events. However, exposing children to such experiences can help in their personal development such as their personal interests, hobbies, social skills and communication, it also fosters family unity and oneness.
- Create Time for Your Family.
There is a saying that ‘whatever you love you create time for’. On the other hand if you love your family, you will create time for your family. It is not the quantity of the time that often matters but the quality of time spent, make every minute you spend with your family count. Be attentive to the needs of your family both your husband and children. In recent times, statistics shows that most women spend more time on social media than they spend with their family. Utilise the available little moments such as, when in the car, kitchen, during dinner or any other time that you have to spend with your family, seek to share chores, travel together; little moments can be very crucial and creates lasting memories for the family.
Understandably, issues of striking balance in career and family life has posed a challenge over the years, as people seek to secure their family, homes and future; it is one of the many situations where a disproportionate amount of time and focus on work leads to breakdowns in communication and tension between couples. However, becoming a suitable godly helpmeet is a surety that you have to balance with your career and family, this cannot be done without the grace of God. The grace of God can only be contacted when you have a relationship with Jesus. Today, I want you to make Jesus the Lord of your life so as to enable you have the desired home you have always dreamt about, if you have made this decision you can say this prayer of faith: Father, I realise that I have been a sinner. Today I believe You died and rose on the third day redeeming me from all my sins. Now I accept You as my personal Lord and Saviour, save me and accept me as Your child, write my name in the book of life. Thank You Father for saving me, in Jesus name!
Congratulations you are now a child of God, and have been connected to the all-sufficient grace of God that energies one to do all things, without fainting or getting discouraged. You can call or write and share your testimonies with me via firstname.lastname@example.org or 07026385437 and 08141320204.
To get more understanding on the subject above, these books authored by me are available at Dominion Bookstore in all living Faith churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: The Dignity of a Believer, Salvation: The Way of Escape, A Living Witness, and Growing in Grace.
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