Grace and peace be multiplied to you in Christ Jesus. Last time, I shared with you the need to be hospitable. In this segment, I will be teaching on Be a Help.
Obviously, God instituted marriage to get a suitable help for man; so He made the woman. The woman is therefore, an ordained help for her husband. What are you to help your husband with? As a wife, God expects you to help your husband bear the load of responsibilities he carries. The Word of God says: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
Your ‘ministry’ is to ensure that the man does not fail in his duties and that the family system does not break down. In other words, you are there in the family to help lift the weight, not add to it; you are there as a helper not a destroyer, castigator or betrayer.
Every home is like a garden, and just as God gave Adam an instruction to dress and keep it, every home must be dressed to be kept. No matter how colourful your garden, if it is left unkept, it is open to the attack of all kinds of insects, which will eat up its good fruits. Genesis 2:15 says: And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
Woman, how well kept is your home? This scripture has many implications. A woman is to keep her house spiritually, by prayer and sensitivity to the Holy Spirit; but she also keeps it practically by cleaning up and beautifying it. “Cleanliness is next to godliness,” they say. Let the environment be conducive for the Holy Spirit. Titus 2:4-5 says: That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
There is a popular adage that says, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Woman, your family is what they eat. If they are healthy, it can be practically traced to their eating habits.
It is not enough to feed with large quantity of food, but you need to feed them right. Are the foods they eat nutritious? Or do you give them just anything? Wisdom is profitable to direct (Ecclesiastes 10:10).
In this day and age of processed foods and snacks (fast food), please secure the health of your family by feeding them with good food. Remember, “garbage in, garbage out.”
Eve fed her husband; unfortunately, she fed him with poison instead of life. Woman, what are you feeding your dream man with? Genesis 3:6 says: And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
Financial rest does not only come when you are a millionaire, it comes by being a good money manager. You must have a financial plan or else you are creating room for financial pain. A wise man once said, “Pain is a sign of disorder.” It follows that to experience financial pain, is a sign of disorder in your spending.
You can prioritize your spending and maximize your income. Why must you put yourself into such pain getting into debt? Spend within your means and be content with your income size for now.
The Bible says: Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase (Job 8:7).
One other way to nurture your relationship is by an often neglected key, and that is complement. Every human being loves to be praised, either for what he has done or simply for who he is.
The key is to locate the good qualities in your spouse and focus on them. Then express your appreciation for those good qualities by the words of your mouth. Learn to show appreciation for both small and great acts of kindness. You can also show appreciation by giving little gifts.
Make room for praise in your home. Praise God always and complement your husband or wife and your relationship will be a heaven on earth!
If you are not born-again, you do not have what it takes to be a help indeed. You need to repent and appropriate the sacrifice Christ made for your sins or you will face the consequences of sin. To be born-again, please pray this prayer out loud: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
As you celebrate in this season, remember that Jesus is the reason for the season. Equally, I know you are set to usher in the New Year. It is not a time for you to get drunk! Before then, you should be able to take stock and make a resolution to obey and serve God with ALL your heart. I wish you HAPPY CHRISTMAS and HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Congratulations! You are now born-again! All round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, and firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).