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I always knew that the responsibilities that come with being a woman were enormous. However, it made no difference to me until I became a wife, a mother, and worked outside of the home. Phew! That’s when I knew it was serious business – I am sure you ladies out there know what I am talking about. If care is not taken, it can shock you, overwhelm you, or even wear you out… naturally. I had seen other women handle their various responsibilities but I truly felt the pressure when I left my single days behind and my various responsibilities expanded.

Women wear so many hats… wife, mother, family manager, accountant, lawyer, etc., that is A LOT of work!! But that’s the story of a woman’s life. One thing I have learnt though, is to never complain about the various things I have to do. My husband often says that “where you are is someone else’s prayer point“, and that statement has been more than enough to keep me in check.

I also believe that as ladies we have a very special place in God’s heart. I mean it’s such a privilege for Him to give us all these responsibilities; I always remind myself that it’s because He knows we can handle it, and many of us do it so flawlessly by His grace. I want to encourage you as a woman, more importantly, as a Value Adding Woman, never to see your roles as a burden but as a privilege. It has shown me that God knows the strength we posses as ladies. How won’t He? After all, He created us, right?

People often ask me how I manage to balance a lot of what I do, and I always tell them it comes down to the state of my spirit. That’s something I don’t joke with because that is what keeps me going, no matter how tired I may feel. To be effective in all the different things we have to do, the state of our spirits is of utmost importance. The Bible tells us to be fervent in spirit (Romans 12:11). To be fervent means to have a burning intensity for something. It means to build yourself up continuously in the Spirit. Why? Because when the spirit is alive, the body has no choice but to follow suit, even when naturally you are tired. Be determined to grow spiritually and it will help you handle all your roles effortlessly. Don’t let a day go by without studying the Word of God, and praying, especially in the Spirit. Don’t put pressure on yourself; do what works for you and then you’ll keep growing.

It’s important to do everything joyfully too, don’t get weary in doing well (Galatians 6:9), and don’t hang around those who try to make you see your various roles as a burden. Surround yourself with those who help you grow spiritually, and otherwise. Rest when you need to, because the human body does need to rest and recuperate but I can assure you that as long as your spirit is alive, you will be just fine.

The Bible also tells us that it’s the spirit of a man that sustains his infirmity, but a wounded spirit, who can bear? (Proverbs 18:14).  Women are the live-wire who keeps the family affairs going, and guess what? The enemy knows this, so he would try to bring you down. Proverbs 17:22 also tells us that a crushed spirit dries the bones. So do not let your spirit be crushed for a second. Keep reminding yourself that God has fully equipped you for all your assignments, and be determined to keep your spiritual tempo up. That is what will sustain you in the long run!

You must have Christ in your life to know the be fervent in the spirit. This simply means that you must be born again and you can only do so by having a personal relationship with Him. You can do this by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”

Congratulations! I am so excited for you and look forward to your testimonies. Till I come your way next time, please call or write to share your testimonies with me through cpyfamily@yahoo.com and contact@faithoyedepo.org, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437.  You can connect with me on my Facebook page, called Crisis-Proof Your Family, and my blog – www.crisisproofyourfamilyblog.com !

For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Building a Successful Family, Making Marriage Work and Marriage Covenant.

Remain ever blessed!

Kemi Oyedepo


  • Gwe Olivia Neak 05-02-2016


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