There are many things people say are normal about family life. For instance, they say it is normal for children to bring disease from school for the whole family. They say it is normal for a husband and wife to fight. They say it is normal for the family to live in debt. They say it is normal for in-laws to bully or mistreat husband/wife. They say it is normal for teenagers to be rude and talk back to their parents without boundaries.
There are so many costly and unpleasant normalities that exist in marriage and the family! No wonder many single men and ladies would rather play house than have the real deal. And no wonder many husbands and wives are ready to get out of their marriages without thinking twice. I learnt early on that by the grace of God, such normalities could become an abnormality in my family life. I learnt that if I refuse to accept such normalities, they would be far from me.
The word abnormal is dictionary defined, as deviating from what is normal or usual, typically in a way that is undesirable or worrying. However, in this sense, this abnormality is absolutely desirable! You may have never thought it was possible, and you are probably wondering how you also can ensure that such unpleasant normalities become abnormal for your family.
First of all, connect with divine grace through Jesus Christ. That connection through salvation means you are adopted into God’s family. It is what ushers you into a new inheritance and a new way of life. It is what makes your ‘normal’ become different from the norm. It doesn’t stop there though. You still have to DO some things, which bring me to my next point.
Seek your new ‘normal’ from the bible; get your picture from God’s Word. There, you will find biblical antidotes to many of the negative ‘normals’ you know now. Sickness, poverty, family crisis, etc are not designed for pleasure. The Bible tells you everything you should have instead – which are your inheritance in Christ such as riches, favour, peace, unity, joy, etc.
Thirdly, begin to create your new ‘normal’ based on what the Bible says you should have. You do this through prayer, fasting, studying the Bible, and allowing God’s Word to work in you. Confess it with your mouth and believe it in your heart. Confess what you believe your new normal is. It doesn’t matter if you are single or married, use your mouth to speak your grace filled abnormality into existence. If you are in debt, start confessing abundance. If your child is always sick, start confessing vitality. If there is division, chaos and confusion in your home, declare peace and unity. Make faith-fuelled declarations; for example, the Bible says that while others may be cast down or brought low; when it is normal to be at the bottom, for you and I, we will remain lifted up (Job 22:29). Start adjusting yourself to a new NORMAL; start basking in the abnormality of a peaceful family life that comes by God’s grace. The next time you think about marriage and the family, please know that its absolutely ok to be abnormal…by grace!
To be abnormal by God’s grace, you must have Christ in your life. He is the One who gives us the confidence to bask in our abnormalities despite the direction the world is going in. This simply means that you must be born again and you can only do so by having a personal relationship with Him. You can do this by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”
Congratulations! I am so excited for you and look forward to your testimonies. Till I come your way next time, please call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org and email@example.com, Tel: 08141320204; 07026385437. You can also connect with me on my Facebook page called Crisis-Proof Your Family, and my blog – www.crisisproofyourfamilyblog.com!
For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian Bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Single with a Difference.
Remain ever blessed!